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Originally Posted by slinky
I really don't understand why, in this day and age woman stay in abusive relationships.
A lot of woman say " Oh I stayed for the children". Do these woman realise how devastating it is for children to watch this day in day out. Speaking from experience, I would have rather had a slit family, than live everyday in fear!!!!!!.
So no staying for the kids, is a BAD option.
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Erm i can understand it unfortunately being in that position 1st hand u cant actually see what an outsider can see as corrie has depicted well, domestic violence isn't just about slaps & punches, its main trigger starts with mental & emotional abuse - physical is usually the last of the 3. Cognitive therapy which is what Zack did helped shelley to see that she was capable when charlie undermined her & that clicked for Shel but a lot of women even men are trapped in the cycle of fear not only physically but mentally & emotionally ripped & worn down & are truelly in beleif that its their fault & the guilt trip cards played by abuser when a person is on the floor keeps that going more. It takes tremendous courage to leave & stand upto an abuser its not always easy to just go & those not strong enough that do leave usually go back with the abuser later. Cognitive Councelling gives u the best chance of escaping & sticking with it as u can unravel the mind control & reprint your own back plus knowing the signs to watch out for too.
But yes slinky being a single parent is better rather than a violent nuclear family for the child wellbeing & safety.