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Re: Bbc3
Great point Mani. People go on about how great it is elsewhere but I don't see them packing their bags to go.
I didn't see the program about the Riaz family, due to not being here, but from what I heard at the time it was a case of the father feeling he had lost control with his wife being so active in the wider community. The suggestion that she was having a relationship outside her marriage was a terrible slur on her character. I don't think he, the husband, understood how someone can have friendships and meet people on a platonic basis or related to business or other meetings. He may have felt very insecure too with life here not being what he expected and not known where to turn.
At one time I just couldn't understand the mentality and logic behind these so-called honour killings but I read a book a couple of years ago whilst on holiday. I can't remember the title but it was by an American woman whose father had been shot by terrorists. She had wanted to understand why and so she had gone to find these people, incognito, and had ended up becoming a friend of the family and put over the way they thought and felt so well that it became easier to understand why they behaved the way they did. It also made me realise how hard it is to change the way of thinking of people who don't know any different. Forgiving would seem like a weakness to them and yet this woman was able to forgive them by getting to know them. It was really weird getting inside their heads.
Did anybody record the program? I would like to watch it if possible.
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