[WillowTheWhisp]

Originally Posted by misskitty

That is correct-as the last time we 'broke up' was him telling me he didn't want anything to do with Jack when i was 8 weeks pregnant with him......that might be why i haven't got over it

Is someone who didn't want to know you or to know his future child really worth wasting any energy on? Whatever you feel about Jack's dad doesn't affect Jack's dad at all. It only affects you. Why let him do that? It just gives him more importance in your life than he deserves.

I know someone whose ex had told her to get an abortion or he would leave. She didn't. He did. The end.

Of course Jack missed out on not having his biological father there but if, as a result, he gets a better Dad who is a real Dad because he actually cares about him then that matters more. As he gets older he can find out about his 'real' dad. I knew someone (now deceased) who was not the actual biological father of his son but when talking to the son about that when he was older the lad's reply was along the lines of. "He gave me a few genes. You gave me everything else. He may be my father but you have always been my Dad."