is it a boy or a girl...? should we find out ?
 

we are going for our 20 week scan next week and we have both decided to find out what sex the baby is - providing its not being shy on the day of course...and I know some folk may say that the scans sometimes are not always correct which is fair enough - but is finding out what sex the baby is before its born taking away the excitement from the big day ?
I personally dont think it is taking anything away from the big day at all for when he/she enters the world as I see it as putting a person to the name !- that and the fact little peanut is finally here !
whats your thoughts on this..should we?...shouldnt we ? - would you given the choice ?

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i found out when i was pregnant with Reece, only because i was nosey and wanted to know what colour to buy things

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well there is that reason as well...nothing like being prepared I say !

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thats why i found out, but sometimes you cant find out :D it may have its legs crossed

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no no
you cant beat not noing

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thats entirely up too you 2 glasgowguy, personally dont see any problem with it,but know people that do.

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I take it this is your first? First congrats on already being a 20 week old father! We chose not to know for our first. Actually, never had an ultrasound so I guess that help us not knowing!

For our second, Joshua, there were thought to be complications so they had an ultrasound done. We were told that they were 95% sure he was a girl. So, prior to heading to the hospital, we asked Annie if she wanted to have Allison with one L or two.

I was pleasantly shocked when he came out all boy:eek: . When I got home I said, "Annie, guess who's here?" She reply is it Allison? I said nope, it's Joshua. She started crying saying "I don't want Joshua, I want Allison."

Sometimes not knowing can be an asset!:p

Brian

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LOL! Don't take it as gospel either Glasgow Guy, my little Kayleigh had to be be quickly re-named Thomas when he arrived :D

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I found it was better knowing. Before deciding on a name we could at least refer to my daughter as her, rather than it.

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With my 1st i liked the mystery & tbh i wasn't sure throughout the pregnancy so it was lemons & whites, when just born awaiting the nurse to say congrats it a boy or its a girl, had 2 names sorted felt more traditional.

With subsequent babies better to find out for a host of good reasons as finances might be tighter, room etc. With my subsequent i had a very strong feeling what sex of baby i was having so when came for the scan i had a little wager with the scanner, they only then could confirm it cos i was right hehehehehe:p:D & the little ****** swore at me on the scan Peter Kay style lol.

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When i was pregnant and went for my scan i had all the in tentions of finding out wether it was a boy or a girl, but when it came to it they couldnt tell either way! Im so glad that they couldnt because it was all the more exciting, especially when she finally arrived and the midwife said 'its a girl!'

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I didnt want to know so I could enjoy it more. The not knowing made the whole thing more exciting. Some do want to know some dont its down to personal choice unless you are hoping to reserve a place in a same sex private school.

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It's a very personal choice Glasgow Guy. From a midwife's point of view, the couples who don't know tend to be more excited on the big day. I have known several scans to be wrong, bearing in mind that 5% will be wrong. For a unit with 4,000 deliveries a year about 200 of those scans will be wrong for the gender of the baby (what is being scanned here is very small).

Many people choose names for both sexes just in case but will change the name a few days after the birth because they feel that the baby doesn't suit the name.:rolleyes:

Whatever you decide to do, make sure that it is what you both want. One person knowing and the other not knowing causes problems and arguments. If your other half wants to know but you don't, then I would strongly advise that you don't find out. Remember that your scan is for diagnostic purposes only. The Sonographer will be looking for obvious abnormalities in the baby and placenta, looking at the gender of the baby is merely a courtesy and is not documented in the records, therefore there is no legal comeback if you go out and spend a fortune on baby stuff aimed at one sex.

Whatever you decide, make sure that you have a few quid with you for photos. I think they are currently about £4. People think this is expensive but it is a fraction of the cost of the photo and without that payment the NHS couldn't afford to do them. If you get a photo, store it in a brown envelope and don't expose it to light, it will last longer this way as they fade over time. Photocopy the picture before storage and show people the copy. Most of all, enjoy your scan and be prepared for baby jigging around like a loony during it......... they don't like it you see.:D

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i didnt know with my first, because they didnt used to tell you years ago:rolleyes:
but my second, i wanted to know, and found out i was having a boy!!

i still bought clothes etc that would suit a boy or girl, just in case it was the other, in case it was his cord hanging:p , but it was a boy, and by eck, hes a right lad!!


so yeh i wanted to know, its handy if you want to buy clothes etc, but like i did just buy a few yellow or green colours, just in case:rolleyes:

congratulations by the way.....:Banane14:

you too pipinfort......:Banane14: .....:D:D

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I would personally have liked to have known (not particularly with the first) but like Panther not available, however, I have often wondered if you were pregnant and already had, say 4 girls, and turned out your 5th would be yet another girl, would you not feel a little disappointed during your pregnancy and would it affect your mood ?

Also, hear tales of certain 'groups' that desire a boy and a girl would not be welcome and abortion follows... sure you understand what I am saying, but
do you think this is true ??

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It is true of some cultures in some countries but is less of an issue in the UK. As unsavoury as it is, in countries such as China where they have the 1 child rule this practise is said to be more common. Infanticide is also an option over there and many baby girls are killed in more rural areas. Premature babies are often left to die over there because if a family can only have 1 child they need a child who will grow up strong and be able to support their parents in later years. Healthy boys are more preferable to girls as manual labour/farming/fishing are the mainstays of life for the poorer families. Richer families who can pay to have more than 1 child can often afford to educate little girls to degree level thus ensuring a good income. Unfortunately the poor way outnumber the rich. Chinese orphanages often have far more abandoned baby girls than boys in them. It is the way of the country and the culture and although distasteful to western people we must consider that it is hardly an ideal situation for people in poverty who have to do these things in order to survive.

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:eek: my child was premature!!
you would think in this day and age all that would have faded out by now, i think its just sad!!:(

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I know, it's very sad. The reason is that extremely prem babies cannot be guaranteed to develop without significant health problems which may stop them from getting work as adults. It is not that the technology is lacking but the way of the country. They are allowed another child if the first child dies.:(

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I didn't find out with my first, my other half wanted to know so I had it written and sealed in an envelope (they wont do that for you now), meanwhile I convinced him to wait, we had a girl and the sonographer was right, my second pregnancy we both wanted to know and was told it was a boy, we still didn't buy blue I didn't believe them though we did decorate his room, anyway he was a boy and even though we knew he was a boy the birth was still nice because we were meeting him for the first time. Its very much a personal choice though GG, good luck.

Good luck to Pipinfort as well.

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I had my children before the days of ultrasound scans so there was no way you could know but I wish there had been. I would have loved to know in advance. Both my daughters knew what theirs were, before birth, but I think it's up to the individual. Some want to know and some don't.

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Im a prem baby:D :D :D & i think im ok lol:D

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I was also a prem baby..born 3 months premature:) ...and I only lived as I was born in an army hospital which had more modern equipment at the time...my heart stopped 4 times and I was christened in my incubator as the chances of me living were pretty slim...I was a little miracle baby at the time as the chances of living after being born that early back in the early 70's were quite slim..so my doc told...:)

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Like westender I had mine before the days of ultrasound, would like to have known with 2nd child but not sure if I would with the first.

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my daughter was prem and shes now taller than all the rest of the girls in her class, explain that one:D

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CONGRATULATIONS PIPINFORT & FAMILY AAAAAW A BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER .HOPE ALL ARE DOING OK



think this would be better in a thread of its own .........

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Congratulations to both of you.

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nice one pipinfort!!, your wife must be relieved to get the baby out, she must have been hugh!!
i know how she felt my kid was 9lb 10!!! and my what a fat lump!!!:p

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Congratulations To You All.

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Congratulations Mr and Mrs Pipinfort on your new arrival, you'll have to post us a pic of her then we can all have a coo.:D

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awe congrats,yes i think you shud find out u can plan better,i found out with both of mine and was really organised rite up to the birth,the birth of a child is amazing ,enjoy xx

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CONGRATULATIONS to you and the Family. I to can sympathize. My son was a big lump. Now he's a big skinny beanpole.

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Aaah she's lovely!

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Congratulations Mr & Mrs Pinifort, she is lovely:D