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Strange question, but does anyone know how long a divorce takes normally from beginning to end?

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A lot longer than the ceremony!! :)

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tell me about it lol, it seems to be taking forever

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I did it 22 years ago, the process took around eight months but freedom takes a lot longer.......

If you are going to do it, talk to each other and keep it clean.

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am trying too and not fighting over anything but keeping it civil at times is difficult considering what i was put through

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Mine took about six months, I think some of that was my ex deciding whether or not she wanted to sign the papers.

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its been going on for about 7 months now, just seems to be taking a long time

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depends on agreements between both partners, how quick the solicitors work, and court dates!!

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I didnt oppose it or anything, just let get on with it, as far as I know there were no hiccups, I think the reason for doing it influences time as well, I told her to say I had been unfaithful, and I think that speeded it up.

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Returned my "affidavit" to solicitors on friday so was just wondering how long its gonna take from now, im waiting to celebrate lol

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As I said before, depends how quick they can get a court date, sometimes it can be a couple of months!!!

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awww, i hope they hurry up

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my advise to speed things up
do away with solicitors and do it yourself go to the lawcourts in oak st

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Also, if you have been split up and living separate for 2 years or more that speeds it up. Thats what my Dad did with his second wife.

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Not necessarily - I went for the two year separation but it still took 6 months after the two years were up for everything to be finalised.

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When I got devorced in 1991 (the happiest day of my life:D) I had be seperated for about 26 months, we both agreed to the divorce, we both filled in the forms took them in to Oak Street and we got the decree nisi 6 weeks later and never went to court or anything, I think it cost us £65 each. Whether things have changed now I don't know?

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My divorce is going through the solicitors on the grounds of adultery (not me might I add!!!) I got told by them it should take about 6 months from start to finish as he admitted it, signed confession etc etc but its been nearly 8 months now (I know he did "sit on" the papers for a good few weeks though) am hoping it wont take long now but just curious if anyone else had been in the same situation and had guestimates on how long from now, waiting for a party lol

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never beeen married so havent a clue. all these people getting divorced, wonder how much was spent on the weddings:rolleyes:

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I did my own divorce, it took 11 weeks from start to finish and cost us £75 each..:D

Solicitors will drag the process out and tell you that it is a complicated process. This is complete twaddle, the petition is as easy to fill out as a passport form and you just take it to the court and hand it in, they do the rest.

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didnt even know about a "quikkie" divorce, just went to solicitors, thought that was my only option and i just wanted to get things started

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I too didn't even realise you could do it yourself.....wonder how much money/time has been wasted by others not knowing this?

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I think there are only certain circumstances where you can do your own. Usually uncontested and where assets and children are not involved from memory.Somebody else can look it up :)

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My first divorce was a quickie with no solicitor or barrister - 2 years apart/mutual consent.
Because we had a child there were added procedures-
A 'Guardianship of Minors Order' which sorted child maintenance and access before the divorce, and I had to attend divorce court in person to convince the judge that the child arrangements were satisfactory.

My 2nd divorce was a pitched battle which took 2 years, involving-
3 injunction hearings to stop his harrassment
2 valuations of house and contents (even knives and forks!)
I emerged about £10,000 poorer than if I had never married him
(that was a lot of money 28 yrs ago- see chaps it isn't always the man who gets stung financially)
I was granted a divorce for his adultery AND 'intolerable behaviour'.

So when you ask 'how long does it take' - I say it is like asking
'how long is a piece of string'

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Thanks, am just going to have to hold in there i guess

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The length of time for the divorce depends on the circumstances of the individual marriage and grounds that are filed for the divorce.

The only definitive timescale is the time from decree nisi to decree absolut which If I recall correctly is 6 weeks

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You're right, solicitor applies for decree absolut 6 wk and 1 day after decree nisi

Got hearing date for decree nici - 28th March - cant wait!!!!!

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Are we all invited to th divorce party then emzy:D

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oh dear, thats why i dont get married, too much money wasted in weddings and then it all goes down toilet.(only joking)
i dont want to get married cuz my bf wont accept the fact that when i get married i want to keep my surnames and not take his, he says that he wont get married till i do so i guess we will never get married, i just dont want to belong to no one and im really happy to carry my parents surnames till i die

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I got back my original surname by deed poll.
I don't think women should change their surname on marriage.
It makes it hard to trace your old school pals, and your identity gets immersed into his.

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My divorce took about 3 month
pretty quick really . came out went for a beer with my solicitor and sent hubby a happy divore card . havent looked back . mind you he has hehe.
In all fairness we are mates now

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I celebrated my divorce by spending a night on the town with his best friend :D
revenge was sweet --- I was only 40 then and still had the urge and inclination ;)

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Hey we dont loose it at 40:eek:


and your right revenge is sweet . ;)

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I didn't fell particularly elated when my divorce came through, although glad I went down that road ... :rolleyes: Certainly not cause for going out on the razz.

Have been brought up to believe in the Institution of Marriage and all that goes with it, probably because my parents had a good marriage and lived/worked for each other and myself and my brother to give us a good life ... just felt I may have failed in some way.

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I felt at first like I had failed but soon came to realise that in no way whatsoever was it my fault and I had done everything that I possibly could so no longer feel like that but know I will be celbrating for sure

Am counting down the days!!!!!

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And yes........... will post the details when its happening!!

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It's finally come through...............as of the 22nd of July I am now officially divorced :D

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Congrats emzy, whens the official party then:D

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Thats to be planned lol need to sort out enough money to party lol

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I'm seperated, it has been suggested that after all this time perhaps I should go for a divorce?

I have several answers to that,

I married for life.
I'm not paying for anything, if she want's a divorce she can pay for everything.
While I'm still married to my one and only mistake, I can't possibly be tempted to make the same mistake again.
If she needs to make that mistake again, she would by now have put the money up front.

Yes, it took 30 years to realise we had nothing in common, but, no way do I want to be free to find someone that could be twice as bad, give me a quiet bed rather than a quiet sulk!
:p

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I feel exactly the same way. My divorce is going through at the moment, but I hadn't heard anything for a while so I rang the court to find out what was going on. I thought that maybe I'd missed something, but it turned out that they'd filed the papers instead of passing them on for the Judge.

Prices of divorces have increased enormously. Just doing it yourself costs £300 for the initial submission to the court, then a further £40 for the Absolute (or whatever it's called).

Now that things are rolling again I think it'll all be sorted out by September, but I won't be celebrating anything. I don't see anything to celebrate, as I failed in something that was important to me.

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For me its the closure of what wasnt the best of experiences and it is the start of the rest of my life. This is why i'll be celebrating

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I was talking personally and not commenting on other people. Everyone is different.

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I know you were, dont worry. Just explaining why I am happy that it has finally gone through :)

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When my divorce came through I felt much like TM that I had failed in some way. It was weird really because like you Em I also felt I was saying goddbye to a bad part of my life. Most people get married believing it is for life but unfortunately often that isn't the case. Best just to move on believe me life can and does get better:)

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I've been divorced twice, the first one had me feeling much like TM and Bernie, because there were kids involve, but the second one I didn't give a toss. I have had a lady friend now for close on 19 years and although we don't live together and live miles appart, I've never been as happy as I am now, even though my health is failing and my lifestyle has been drastically affected over the last 12 months, at least I now have someone who cares and you don't need a piece of paper for that

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To be honest I do feel like I have failed in a way but my future is more important than the past. I somehow feel that I married for the wrong reasons, part of me know that I did it for the kids. The Boys are far happier now and will be far happier throughtout life than if I was still married, the constant arguements etc would not have been good for them. I am happier now than I have ever been, have my boys and someone very close who means a lot and things for me are a lot more relaxed and settled and I am far more content now.

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You are right Emzy just look to the future hope it is a happy one:)

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Me too lol

Have been through a lot, and i know ill never be able to forget it but have just put it down to experience and will get on with the rest of my life knowing its gonna be better than my past :D

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I think that's right. Everything that happens to you throughout life, both good and bad, contributes to who you are today. Everyone has regrets, but you move on all the wiser for that. :)

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Was just wondering how old people were when they got married, I was only nineteen and think I was to young. Having said that my sister got married at nineteen and they are still going strong after twenty seven years. How old were you when you got married??

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I was 24 when i got married, so not what i would say as too young really

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Agree with you like me you wed the wrong person:o Having said that my second marriage was a success so must have learnt something through the disatarous first one;)

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congrats hunni :D

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[quote=emzy;610825]For me its the closure of what wasnt the best of experiences and it is the start of the rest of my life. This is why i'll be celebrating[/quote

Wishing you all the best for `the start of the rest of you`re life` congrats

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Seems like the question that should be being asked is "why the hell do people get married"? I tried it twice .... didn't do too well, obviously. Looks like it might be hard to find anyone on here, or anywhere else for that matter, who has not been divorced.

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You lookin' for a virgin Eric ... :D

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No-bodies perfect! Perfection is just something people strive to reach when it isnt actually possible. You're not human if you dont make a mistake or two

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All the best to you, Emzy. I married at 27 and the marriage lasted for twenty years. For me, divorce was the end of one chapter of my life and I was then free to start on another, but it impacts on the children, their education suffered as a result - my daughters should have gone to university, and my son possibly played cricket for Lancashire. Who knows?

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There's not many of them knocking about in our age group kate, male or female:D

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I havent been divorced

Havent been married tho. Man maybe brave enough to travel to space, or throw themselves on grenades, still not brave enough to take me on lmao x

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awww hun, i'll marry you :D think we'd be better off! lol

Not sure what Pete will think!lmao

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Nah .... but thanx for the offer:D:D:D

I gave up on women 2 yrs. ago .... actually, 26 months, 19 days, 7 hours, 45 minutes and 11 seconds ago ... but who's counting:eek:

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Iv never married, why bother if all ya do is divorce after!, and become enemies

many relationships last longer if ya dont wed!......plus ya dont have the aggro of solicitors either...just a clean split:D

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There ain't no such thing as a clean split:(

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who the buggery is pete???? pmsl xxx


(and thanks, i accept on the condition I get the ring and the new frock, you get the beer and the honeymoon droop lol)

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lol, dont matter, its a long story i thought i'd already told you lol..... i wont be sleeping with ya love..... never doing that again...born again virgin me pmsl

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Ohhhhh now i remember, yes you did tell the tale lol

And thats the whole point in marriage. Apparently from the time the rings hits ya finger, you dont have sex pmsl ;)

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depends which ring yer on about ;)

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Maybe humans arent meant to be with one person their whole life ie nature ??

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So .... you are making the assumption that women are human:eek::hidewall:

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Me next....

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Never a truer statement:rolleyes:;):)



And thats the whole point in marriage. Apparently from the time the rings hits ya finger, you dont have sex pmsl ;)[/quote]

Who said????:p




(and thanks, i accept on the condition I get the ring and the new frock, you get the beer and the honeymoon droop lol)[/quote]


Good girl, nice to know Your thinking straight:p;):)http://www.accringtonweb.com/forum/i...ons/icon10.gif

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Well they always say that Wedding cake is the best contraceptive going:D:p