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Has anybody else who has lost a loved one had any signs that they are still around?? Not long atfter Ianto died I got a couple of signs and then in the early hours of this morning got what I consider to be another one. Was just wondering if anybody else has received any and if they brought you comfort.

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Yeah,not long after my mum died for a while i could smell her perfume around me and felt like she was still around looking after me.
Also my dog duke who loved my mum would sit at the bottom of the stairs barking at nothing.
Again i believe it was my mum and it did bring comfort at the time.

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I know that a lot of folk will pooh-pooh this, but after my dad died, my Mum would get up and find the TV switched on...and also the kettle boiling its' head off(it was electric, but in the days before kettles switched themselves off when they had boiled).

And when Ma was diagnosed with cancer I came home from work and switched on the computer and got a blue screen with a little box in it and it said 'I'm here' and at the same time i could smell cigarette smoke.....no-one smokes in my house.
I can find no explanation for that episode......and there have been others that have happened when Ma and I have been together.......the computer screen one made me think I was going 'NUTS' because only I saw it...but the shared experiences have given both Ma and me great comfort.

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Never had this experience myself ... but have heard of strange things happening to friends of mine. Altho' after I had a special dog put down, I did seem to see her out of the corner of my eye, but I put this down, and still do, to just plain missing her.

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I may have told these stories before and, if I have, sorry for repeating them.

The first time was, in fact, the night following the day Colin had died. I was very much in shock and couldn't sleep and I got up at 2 a.m. I kept walking backwards and forwards from the French window to the end of the garden, not really knowing what I was doing. About 3.30 day began to break (it was mid-Summer) and I looked up at the sky towards the East. There were a few clouds around and suddenly one was illuminated by the sun and made a huge, glowing letter C in the sky. It was, strangely, very comforting.

The next time was January 1997 and Colin had died the previous June. We had some awful gales and the lovely red climbing rose he had planted by our front door had blown down and broken. I'd had to prune it back to only 4' high and it was little more than a stem and a few bare, twiggy branches, not a leaf or leaf-bud in sight.

On my birthday, the 18th, I drove home from work on a dark, cold, wet afternoon and pulled up on the drive feeling sad and miserable. I noticed something appeared to be stuck in the bare twigs of the rose tree so I went and had a look. I was gobsmacked to see that the "something" was a perfect red rose just opening at the top of the chopped off stem. Colin had always brought (or sent, if he was away) roses on my birthday and my instinct said, straight away, "He's sent this." Needless to say I went inside and howled for over an hour.

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yes i have , when my older sister died , i felt someone sittin on my bed , my kids were i,ll at the time of her death and i asked her to make them well again , cuz at the time there were only 1 and 2 , the next mornin they were fine , Then not long after my little sister died my mirror started moving,its never done that before and that mirror has been there for years , i do believe in that your love ones are there when you need then, not when you ask for them , just when you realy need help , there always there look over you , helping you go the rigth way in life , but when they think you don,t need them , then they go to someone else in your family that need them , but they keep poping back to see how you are , well thats what i believe anyway ,

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pooh-pooh,

As much as I would love this to be true, let's face it, when we are suffering a loss, we are often more than willing to accept what we thought, to be what we want, rather than what is, I wish it was true but we all have to go through bereavement, it is natures way of curing the heartache.

Enjoy those melancholy moments if you can but don't let them rule your life.
:o

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I have to agree with you, Less. Even though my experiences were very personal and very real, at the time, I don't really believe in an after-life.

No, Hell, I'm an avowed agnostic aren't I? That means I'm a "don't know". Pardon me while I adjust my saddle on this fence. ;)

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yep...i'm convinced i have seen my mum (she died when i was 15)

when Reece was born i had him in the cot next to my bed and i swear i saw a light shining at the bottom of his cot, and i came over all warm and funny..now i have put this in a post before on here and people came up with different explanations about what it may have been, but i still believe it was my mum coming to look at Reece

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Well, your an agnostic, I've just re-read what I've said and I don't believe it, so what does that make me? :D

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I think i have posted before thati experienced something similar to that flashy but i clearly saw a little boy looking at him.....

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Less...for you to ask questions like that you must have been on the pop :oke2:

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It wasn't a natural birth was it? (No Drugs)

No, sorry it involved you, silly question I apologise. :D

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I think flashy had a c-section but mine was a natural birth :p

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Less, I know it is hard to believe these things......but when my Ma was diagnosed with Cancer my Dad had been dead for a good 9 years...maybe more....so I wasn't in the throes of grief....and while you may say that I was in a kind of grief, having Ma diagnosed with cancer......I am a pragmatist and in times such as these look to the practical.....I had actually booted up the computer to look at the kind of treatment that ma would be offered....so I was shocked to the core to see the blue screen...which i initially thought there was something wrong with the computer......the message in the box stayed on the screen for a good 10 seconds......I thought I was going nuts...especially as my dad never subscribed to such things...his thoughts were once you are gone...well, thats it.
I truly have no explanation for the experience......and there have been more 'shared' experiences...the last one only 18 months ago.

So while I accept your scepticism...and your opinion.....I know what I have seen....and heard.

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did i forget to say that i saw the light at the end of his cot/my bed... IN MY BEDROOM AT HOME? ;)

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Was that the trees a'rustling or the hinges on the gate - they won't forget old Ernie and he drove the fastest milkcart in the west:theband:

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lol.... in that case its not that much like mine lol.... I was in the hospital and it was the day he was born lol

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he was a couple of weeks old when i 'saw' it

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I knew i'd posted my story before lol

http://www.accringtonweb.com/forum/f...s-38171-2.html

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Some lovely stories and I also think it is our loved ones supporting us. As for my signs, when Ian had his allotment he used to pot his seedling and put them in my airing cupboard to propogate(not something I was happy about because there was soil all over my stairs) Not long after he died there was soil just outside the now redundant airing cupboard and I also found one of his markers. There is no way that soil was there all that time. He wasn't fit for his allotment last year. In the early hours of this morning one of the guests on here was looking at a thread and I clicked onto it. Anyway it was called something like "The Dash Of Life", not many people had contributed to it only Ianto and Willow I think but it sure makes me think he is around me.

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i had a very strange experience, at the bedside of me nan in accy vic when she died,back in 63, do not wish to print it, but would never knock what anyone says happened, but i do not doubt fer a second. it actually freaked me out at the time,being 15, n brought up wi her, but older n wiser it certainly comforted me.

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its a lovely warm peaceful kinda feeling that you get when you know/think a deceased loved one is still around, i remember going to sleep that night with a nice warm glow about me

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I was working in Carlisle back in 1975, had just finished for the day at about 9-30pm and was stood at the bar in the hotel when I got this very cold shiver down my spine, it lasted for about 60 seconds. About 30 minutes later I recieved a phone call from my mother telling me that my Grandmother had died, I asked what time and she said just after 9-30pm, very strange:confused:

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I have had quite a few experiences happen at different times in my life. All to long to write about.

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we both had afew visiters at work have,nt we anne , ha ha ha

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Oh, yessss Pussycat. We shared a few experience's. Both good n bad. Whiling away those boring hours of a night shift. lol.
Ah....... the good ol days.

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Took me ages to find this thread!!

Anyway, just wondred what peoples opinnion on this is?

I had a dream last night, and in it was my lovely sister (passed away in June), and my Grandad, (passed away a good few years ago).

I was getting out of a taxi on a street I did not recognise, with my mum, one of my brothers and Phil, my partner. As we were getting out I noticed my sister on the other side of the road pushing a pram! I asked my mum, why is Trish over there pushing a pram and she just laughed at me. I was so upset that I ran off towards a house at the bottom of the street. On the way, my sister caught my hand and said, It's ok now Gail, she can't and won't upset you anymore! she then took me in the house and left me sat on a chair. When I turned around, my Grandad was sat in another chair and smiled at me and said, don't worry about anything now, your doing ok.
Then I woke up!!

Can anyone tell me what this means please? I'm realy confused because I don't know if it was just a dream or it was meant to mean something.

Gail xxxx

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I often dream about dead friends and relatives, but I don't think this is neccessarily evidence of contact with the dead.

Dreams are the way your subconcious mind sorts out your waking life. The subject of your dream can show you something is bothering you when you didn't realise it was.

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I often dream of my husband, even though he died 12 years ago, and some of the dreams are very ordinary - but some are bizarre. I had a vivid dream, recently, where he and I were in a garden tearing a striped flanelette sheet into 3" wide strips (!) :confused: I have no idea why we were doing it but I felt very happy and comfortable. Oh, and we were both a lot younger - mid 30s or so.

I don't think this is any sort of a sign but I bet a psychoanalyst could have a field day with it. :D

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I was told once that the recently deceased leave a feather with people they've loved. I know this is insane because it's was a cat but the day he died I came back from the vets and there was a feather on the stairs.

Probably a rational explanation - feather pillows etc - but I liked to see it as a sign from one of my best friends.

I've heard my Grandad in the past and I dream about my grandparents quite often.

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I've heard that about the feather thing too Gayle, but have never witnessed it myself, I sometimes dream about my parents and funnily my first wife too, wether thats because I talk to the kids about their mother or not I don't know (she's been dead 20 years, but we were divorced)

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Thankyou Margaret.

Gail xxxx

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OH BERNIE THATS NICE,,,i am glad you feel his presence...