| talentedbutslow |
14-06-2006 17:52 |
Internet relationships
Came across this by chance.....we are not all 16 yrs old here..but some of the advice and reasoning here is apt for persons of whatever age...who are contemplating a full fledged net relationship.....This girl shows an admirable degree of common sense.....
I am nearly 16 years of age and i have already been in quite a few relationships. I must admit most were developed from the internet but some did blossom into real life. From my experiences of internet relationships i can't say because i didn't end up with any of the guys in the past that they were all a waste of time. They happened to teach me a lot about fake feelings and real feelings. After being in these relationships with guys who were always older than me (between 17-21) All of my relationships with these guys failed but in the end i was able to learn so much about myself and set my standards even higher. I began to understand that an internet relationship isn't just something you do for fun. Commitments are vital for these kinds of relationships. When you take on this kind of relationship you have to accept all the problems that may come with it, those problems can be..the distance; you may live very far from the person you like and it is always best to discuss how you would handle the distance if anything was to progress in this relationship. Will one of you sacrifice everything to move to the other. It would be terrible to continue a long distance internet relationship and then suddenly find out one day the person you are involved with can't handle the distance anymore and wants to call it quits. Talk about this with them and make sure that they are sure they can handle it before going any further. You will find if the other person cannot handle it then they were never being truthful about their feelings for you in the first place. Honesty; Are both of you being honest with each other. You can never really know for sure but it is always a risk you take on whether you trust the person or not. Not much can be done for this until the day you can meet the person. I suggest you be honest the whole way through otherwise both people can end up hurt and disappointed. I am currently talking to a guy who lives in another state of Australia (Sydney where i have for the last two years planned to move to and study there) We have made a great friendship and been honest with each other about what we want from this experience. We must wait another year and a half till i can move to be where he is but i have told him i will be able to wait that long to be with him and he has said the same. At the moment i feel sad to not be able to be where he is but i am also happy to know the person he is. In a matter of months i may be meeting him for the first time and that will be my chance to know whether everything i feel for him now through voice and words is just as real in reality. Some people can say internet relationships are a waste of time and maybe they are depending on how seriously you take one. If you want it to work out try your hardest, let the person know what you want from them and be honest. If things don't work out accept it as a learning experience and be wiser for next time. There is always a first time for everything, and a second, and a third, and so on....however many times it takes for you to get it right.
Tal
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