parents - Page 4

MargaretR · 18-12-2007, 22:41

Back on topic--

My relationship with my mother was less than ideal. At an early age she told me that she had wanted a boy and I would have been called Paul. I cannot recall any hugs and cuddles from my mum. There never was any expression of affection, often disapproval. I didn't lack anything in a material sense - got taken to Manchester twice yearly to be kitted out with the latest fashions. I never had a sister, and because of her lack of affection, I have always found friendships with women difficult. I was so eager to leave home that I married the 1st man who asked.

Over time, I learned more about the difficult childhood she had, so began to understand why she was that way.
I never regarded her as a friend until there came a time when she needed me. I was in my 50s, she in her 80s - and out of a sense of duty only, I spent 2 days a week, staying overnight, in order to do all her shopping, cleaning, and laundry.
During these trips in a period of 2 years , we eventually became friends, leading up to her saying one day "You have had a hard life haven't you"- a profound level of understanding had grown between us at last.

I am glad I had the chance to make friends with her before she died.

There may come a time when your mother says sorry too.

Yolanda25 · 18-12-2007, 22:41

oh and by the way blazey check facts before you post

Yolanda25 · 18-12-2007, 22:43

aww blazey thanks, want to meet for a one to one chat and explain to me how can u actually talk about how we mother bring up our kids?

lancsdave · 18-12-2007, 22:45

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Originally Posted by blazey

but I still think your a stupid interfering bint.

Another nomination for 'Ironic Post Of The Year' You're doing well Blazey you got first prize and runner up so far

blazey · 18-12-2007, 22:46

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Originally Posted by Yolanda25

aww blazey thanks, want to meet for a one to one chat and explain to me how can u actually talk about how we mother bring up our kids?

Not every woman with children knows better than the woman without children. That is what Emma herself has mentioned in this thread, one mum was better than the other. So you could have children, but for all I know they could still be children and growing up thinking the same of you that Emma thinks of her mum, so it doesn't really make much difference.

Yolanda25 · 18-12-2007, 22:47

Right blazey honest u are soo good in incredible, i would love to have you as a mother

blazey · 18-12-2007, 23:05

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Originally Posted by Yolanda25

Right blazey honest u are soo good in incredible, i would love to have you as a mother

I'm not saying I'd be a brilliant mother, and I'm not saying I'd be a bad one, and I'm not questioning Emma or her mothers parenting skills, i'm just saying that its not just the positive aspects of your parents abilities that make who you are.

emamum · 18-12-2007, 23:06

if you did question my mothers parenting skills, you wouldnt be the only one........

panther · 19-12-2007, 19:07

oh ******!, why do I always miss the arguments???

i love a good argument, but wont cuz someone might give me bad karma....

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emamum · 19-12-2007, 19:12

he brought a carrier bag home today full of everything in his tray... and guess what?? it was none uniform day on monday!

panther · 19-12-2007, 19:27

my son as finished today!!!
he never brought anything home......

emamum · 19-12-2007, 19:42

i didnt know they were breaking up today until they told me on monday, there was a nativity on today that i didnt know about till they told me today when i dropped him off.......they probably think i am really crap mum,. i never know whats going on at school!

panther · 19-12-2007, 19:44

kids tend to "forget" to tell you for some reason

BERNADETTE · 19-12-2007, 19:45

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Originally Posted by emamum23

i didnt know they were breaking up today until they told me on monday, there was a nativity on today that i didnt know about till they told me today when i dropped him off.......they probably think i am really crap mum,. i never know whats going on at school!

Will you stop putting yourself down all the time!! If you don't know what's going on it is hardly your fault

West Ender · 19-12-2007, 20:14

Don't be silly. I don't think much of a school that doesn't make sure every child has every letter it needs. If they do that, and make sure the letters go in the reading folders, all you have to do is look inside every night.

My daughter is one of the world's worse for forgetting to send money in with Laura. They have swimming on a Monday and Laura seems to be one who pays by about Wednesday. My daughter is a very good mum, as I'm sure you are too, just has a head like a sieve.