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Originally Posted by annesingleton
I think you have issues here that you may realise more when you are older, at the moment you seem to think you are invincible, even though you won't agree I think you are a very vulnerable young woman. And don't go down the compensation culture line with the people who have spoken, it's offensive. ' Lovely Uncle Jimmy, couldn't do any wrong' - blame the children because they were up for it or now as adults telling lies? How dare you? Just because they're now adults doesn't make them any more vulnerable at the time they were abused. Do you know they are claiming compensation? We need in law to take the word of the people who were children at the time they claim they were abused - hopefully the aim is that children will not be subject to such treatment in the future. Think about it.
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(In further response to Anne, the internet decided to misbehave before).
And also,do you know that they do not?
Okay, now I have had a little bit of time to consider, I will say something to you.
It has just dawned on me after a quick post-search, that you are the same user who commented on my blog and has made a point of responding to more than a few of my posts.
You do not know me, have never met me, yet have formed an opinion on me because of my chosen line of work.
Please correct me if I am wrong, as you could be using an alias?
I am inclined to think that this deems you bigoted, ostentatious and pious,all traits that I personally find the most inflammatory in people, but that's not so relevant.
What has caused me to reply, is the fact that it's possible you are genuine, and actually think you are doing some potential good, by helping this young, vulnerable character you have decided I am, and if this is true, then it has to be said.
I have worked with the vulnerable most of my life, was a pioneer of a support group some years ago, and you're right, there are some girls in my line of work who I worry about.
Let us say for arguments sake, that you are correct, I am a young, vulnerable girl, desperate for money, my boyfriend is actually my pimp, I have nobody to talk to and I cry myself to sleep every night.-whatever just an example.
Your methods, of which I speak of things such as saying their choice of money making apparatus was 'shameful' that they're 'dodgy' and are vulnerable and shooting them down when they show any sort of personality,- do you believe that these things would hold any positive effect, on somebody in such a position? Do you think it would make such a person hold respect and figure that you're correct, and summon up the strength to do something about it?
Or do you think perhaps it would cause them upset, cause them even more self-hatred than they already struggle with-make them want to separate themselves from 'normal' society even more than they may already do?
Another relevancy is your medium of doing so-on an internet discussion forum. This person I defined has made an attempt to be part of normal society and is discussing various current issues and conversing with some new people.
And then, they are addressed the way you are addressing me. I am hoping you have the perceptive ability to understand that this is not a positive thing, and again, can emphasise self-esteem issues and result in further harbouring of self hatred, subsequently egoistic rejection from society.
Coming across the way you do, from a stance 'above', causes isolation in young, vulnerable people-especially when it is done publicly. I cannot remember properly and I will not be bothering trawling through more old posts, but did I not advise you from the very beginning that it would be favourable to message me privately, following a response to one of my posts?
If you want to help young, vulnerable people then I can only admire you for that. You may even do so already-I do not know -however in any case please, please change your methods, your way of addressing them-rid yourself of the innate snobbery and rigid opinions, and open your mind a little.
Coming across the way you do to myself, with those who are vulnerable and sensitive can manifest itself and can affect somebody who is already feeling victimised. Understanding, open-mindedness, kindness is key.
I would have sent this privately , but as you choose to jibe at me publicly, I decided you may prefer my responses to be public.
I apologise for threadjack, also mods, if you want I will move this to a new thread. It just needed to be said. I almost think she would like it if something *did* happen to me as a result of my work, or at work, because it would mean she had been proven somewhat correct!
Jennifer