Has Tradition And Respect Gone From The Old Days

[cashman]

have always hugged me kids n there both in 30s now, mind both live away so aint like ya see em every day.

[Royboy39]

Originally Posted by Bonnyboy

Family members hug each other...Ewwww

Just kidding, our family dont do hugs, lord knows why. If you cant hug your family who the hell can you hug

I think Rindy might appeciate one for luck.....

[garinda]

Originally Posted by Bonnyboy

Family members hug each other...Ewwww

Just kidding, our family dont do hugs, lord knows why. If you cant hug your family who the hell can you hug

I'm a big hugger.

When I was a child I overhreard my parents talking to someone whose parents had both died when she was in her terrible teens, and she never got to show them how much she loved 'em.

That really got to me, and I've never been afraid to show my affection ever since.

[Bonnyboy]

Originally Posted by garinda

I'm a big hugger.

When I was a child I overhreard my parents talking to someone whose parents had both died when she was in her terrible teens, and she never got to show them how much she loved 'em.

That really got to me, and I've never been afraid to show my affection ever since.

Sad tale Rindy, life is full of them unfortunately. It’s a pity we don’t take stock from the heartbreak of others…“life’s too short“, “you don’t miss someone until they are gone“, common adages but so very true.

[BERNADETTE]

Originally Posted by Bonnyboy

Sad tale Rindy, life is full of them unfortunately. It’s a pity we don’t take stock from the heartbreak of others…“life’s too short“, “you don’t miss someone until they are gone“, common adages but so very true.

So, So true unfortunately

[steeljack]

Have to admit I hug my kids when I see them ,usually once a year , (we live on different continents) I also hug my daughter-in-law, the son-in-law is a bit too 'Prussian' for the emotional stuff on greeting, a hand-shake works well (bothways) but a hug is okay on saying goodbye (who knows if its the last time).
Re. the grandchildren , hug the Grand-daughters , shake-hands with the Grandsons first, then a hug (in the traditonal formal German way) .

Meeting friends on social occasions ......depends on where they come from , if they are Brits/Aussies/Canucks ...its ..hey how you doing , if they are mainland Europe its the double kiss for the ladies and handshake for the guys , Americans ...handshakes for both, on first and subsequent meetings until you class them as friends then a 'hey hi how you doing " works unless you live in different States and don't see them that often .... then hugs are okay (I suppose) ,
Would never presume to hug a guy older than me , but if they want to show familiarity , its okay to go along

[onlyme]

I make a point of hugging my family (aunties and uncles as well as immediate family), it does look a bit daft a 32 year old giving a big hug but I dont care, who knows when it will be the last time?

Every night when I put my son to bed I tell him I love him. If I'm away, I ring him to tell him. I like the fact that he can go to sleep knowing that i do, no matter what kind of day we've had or if we've fallen out.

My ex's family (my sons grandparents etc), are Geordies, and I travel there to take my son every couple of months or so. Its a bit of an effort, but worth it so my son still knows his family there. (I give them hugs too lol).

Being from an Irish Catholic family, when my nanna was alive, all the family used to congregate at her house at the weekend. Having 8 kids herself, and and average of 3 grandchildren per kid, it used to get pretty crowded, but was superb. She ruled the family and every single person had respect and love for her. Sadly, as soon as she died, the family drifted apart, and only once in the last 3 years have we all come together again.

[Neil]

Originally Posted by garinda

.... on May 4th 1979, when we abandoned traditional British values of respecting one another, and started the gradual descent into a culture of greed, and what we could grab for ourselves.

I am sure you are some sort of political activist

[garinda]

Originally Posted by Neil

I am sure you are some sort of political activist

No, just someone with a keen interest in observing the subtle changes in the national psyche.

[jaysay]

Originally Posted by garinda

Mine are too.

It took me ages in London to break through that self insulated shell southerners have, until my neighbours eventually grunted more than hello.

It was great to move back up north, and I'm blessed with having great neighbours.

I wouldn't go as far to say our doors are always on the latch, and we pop in each other's homes all day long, if we need a new donkey stone or a bit of black leading for instance, but it's not too far off the mark.

Your comment on London reminded me of what my Uncle said years ago Rindi, after the war he settled in north London in Stanmore, He told us that he had lived there 10 years before he got to know his neighbours. He also like a drink but he stopped going out because as he said, I could stand at the bar for two hours and not one person would say hello, even today that would never happen here. As for my family, well both parents are dead now, I have two Daughters a Granddaughter, and two Grandsons (the youngest is 1 tomorrow) I see my eldest every week and speak to her a few times a week on the phone, she lives in Accy, I have a little problem with seeing my youngest, she lives in Vietnam and I see her twice a year Christmas and June, but we do get together when we can

[garinda]

Originally Posted by jaysay

Your comment on London reminded me of what my Uncle said years ago Rindi, after the war he settled in north London in Stanmore, He told us that he had lived there 10 years before he got to know his neighbours. He also like a drink but he stopped going out because as he said, I could stand at the bar for two hours and not one person would say hello, even today that would never happen here. As for my family, well both parents are dead now, I have two Daughters a Granddaughter, and two Grandsons (the youngest is 1 tomorrow) I see my eldest every week and speak to her a few times a week on the phone, she lives in Accy, I have a little problem with seeing my youngest, she lives in Vietnam and I see her twice a year Christmas and June, but we do get together when we can

I'm stuborn, as well as friendly, so eventually beat them down. In the end I became good friends with the girl who lived in the flat upstairs.

[cashman]

laughed at the comments about london, had the misfortune to live down the smoke fer approx 6/7 wks n that was mid 60s, was on my own n got completely fed up of goin fer a pint n nobody speaking, if i did was looked at like an alien, so after a big bust up in a boozer down elephant n castle way, due entirely to me tellin a guy,that he was n ignorant snotty get, i moved back to good old lancs,purely fer health reasons.

[derekgas]

My brother lived down south a while, near gatwick, he worked at tesco, and was young, so fitted in, when he returned there a while later, he says it was 5 yeaars before his neighbour chatted with him, I dont like it down there. My family always hug and kiss when they meet up, my partners family dont, so I always have to be aware of protocol when there are any mixed family meetings.

[pam1]

neil i think a activist for defonit not a political

[shillelagh]

Like i said ive lived in the same house for 35 years so i havent migrated very far - in fact i can see the bedroom i was born in from my back door. Neighbours what would you do without them? Mine kept me sane when mum was alive - when mum was having a go at the kids - they knew she wasnt well and explained to the kids for me that she wasnt well and if she went off on one at them it was the illness talking and just to say sorry and walk away. I babysat for them when their kids were small, they kept an eye on my mum when i wasnt around, looked after their pets when they went on hols we are neighbours and we live next door to each other. They also keep an eye on me - when im ill or the curtains havent been pulled back all day they come round and knock on the door or ring my family to check everythings ok.