Has Tradition And Respect Gone From The Old Days - Page 4

Royboy39 · 05-05-2008, 20:52

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Originally Posted by pussycat

i think im close to my family ; everyone i know say im wrong cuz my kids come first then my family ;then my husband ; dose anyone else think like i do; or am i the only one ;

Your family, close or extended come first.
Your kids are of course the priority and are your responsibility and the responsibility of your husband.
Dont neglect your extended family because hopefully they will come to your aid should anything go wrong.
Advice is good...but beware of silly off the cuff remarks that will not benifit you at all.

Bonnyboy · 05-05-2008, 21:03

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Originally Posted by Royboy39

Your family, close or extended come first.
Your kids are of course the priority and are your responsibility and the responsibility of your husband.
Dont neglect your extended family because hopefully they will come to your aid should anything go wrong.
Advice is good...but beware of silly off the cuff remarks that will not benifit you at all.

Spot on

emzy · 05-05-2008, 21:10

I am very close to my family. When my husband and I were moving in together, I did not want to move away from my family, I lived in burnley for a few weeks then back over to accrington. I have since moved and I am less than 5 minutes walk from my mum and dads house. My sister is also less than 5 minutes walk away and my other sister is less than 5 minutes drive away. I would say I am very close to my mum and dad and would like to think I am the same with the rest of my immediate family. I speak to my mum almost every day, go round when I can (which is when they are fit enough for the twins to be there as they can be quite demanding at times and make quite a mess) but I am ALWAYS there whenever my family need me, be it just to pick something up from the shop, pick the kids up from school, babysit etc or just to listen if theres a problem. I will never move away from my mum and dad, they would have to move away from me and then there would still be a chance that i would follow them lol

Loz · 05-05-2008, 21:51

I'm very close to my family and make sure i see them a couple of times a week and am always on the phone with them.
We all hug and kiss and tell each other we love each other.
I think it's very important to do so because you never know what is going to happen.
I found out the hard way when my mum died and i didn't say i love you before she did.
Since then i make sure everybody around me knows how important they are to me.

garinda · 05-05-2008, 23:55

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Originally Posted by Loz

I found out the hard way when my mum died and i didn't say i love you before she did.

Although I earlier admitted to being a big hugger, I also believe that love is something you show, without necessarily having to say it.

I've known people who make a big song and dance of saying they love someone, and they've treated them like dirt.

I've also known people who've probably never said it, but they've shown love throught their actions.

I'm very sure your mum will have known you loved her, without you having the need to have actually said it.

shillelagh · 06-05-2008, 00:08

Agree with what rindy said about your mum knowing that you loved her.

Im just hoping my sis is still speaking to me after she gets the homemade 50th birthday card tomorrow

..... otherwise me, my sisters and my brother and my nieces and nephews are close. We always have been .... we know that if we need something we can always go to one another... for support, help, just for someone to talk to.

blazey · 06-05-2008, 00:08

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Originally Posted by lancsdave

Serious question. Do you actually ever go outdoors ?

yes, although I must admit, the 'chav' in lancaster is a completely different breed to the ones in hyndburn...

but I have never had a problem with a lack of manners on public transport or with doorways in regards to chavs, in fact its always the elderly people I have the most trouble with. So many think its their god given right to shove past people and jump queues just because they're elderly, and as far as I am concerned the only place they'll be getting to before me is, well... I'm sure you can work it out

yerself · 06-05-2008, 10:54

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Originally Posted by blazey

the 'chav' in lancaster

There's only one in Lancaster?

Eric · 07-05-2008, 22:53

Canadians are generally a friendly bunch and most are close to their families even if part of the family is in St. John's and the other part in Vancouver Island five and a half time zones away. Many families get together at Christmas and at Thanksgiving, the big "family" times. Asian Canadians, Italian Canadians and Portuguese Canadians tend to have closer families. In general, people in rural areas and small towns are friendly and open ... Newfies and Stubblejumpers (Saskatchewan folk) are great ... but in the GTA and Calgary and Vancouver they are a lot like the worst Londoners. First Nations people are very big on family, even with all the problems on reserves. But I do remember that times were different when I was young and in England ... I like to think it was better, but I may be wrong. Perhaps we are going thro a period of social change that will hopefully lead to a new, yet different stability.

steeljack · 07-05-2008, 23:33

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Originally Posted by emzy

I am very close to my family. When my husband and I were moving in together, I did not want to move away from my family, I lived in burnley for a few weeks then back over to accrington. I have since moved and I am less than 5 minutes walk from my mum and dads house. My sister is also less than 5 minutes walk away and my other sister is less than 5 minutes drive away. I would say I am very close to my mum and dad and would like to think I am the same with the rest of my immediate family. I speak to my mum almost every day, go round when I can (which is when they are fit enough for the twins to be there as they can be quite demanding at times and make quite a mess) but I am ALWAYS there whenever my family need me, be it just to pick something up from the shop, pick the kids up from school, babysit etc or just to listen if theres a problem. I will never move away from my mum and dad, they would have to move away from me and then there would still be a chance that i would follow them lol

I can agree with some of what you say , but will add the following ...when a couple get together , both parties have to make some breaks with their original family unit , many break-ups are caused by interfering in-laws from both sides , a guy who gets married is getting married to one person , not the mother-in-law or the sisters in-law, same with the girl , she is getting hooked up to one guy and not his mother, who knows how her little prince likes his eggs boiled and his shirts starched .
Humans are not much different than other animals and once they reach a certain age they have to spread their wings and leave the nest . Ask any parent what they want for their children and they will tell you they want the best .......if that means the kids picking up and moving to say Australia , and taking the grandkids with them then most parents I think would say ...ok ...go do it , we love you , we will miss you , but its your life, go live it .

emzy · 08-05-2008, 00:15

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Originally Posted by steeljack

I can agree with some of what you say , but will add the following ...when a couple get together , both parties have to make some breaks with their original family unit , many break-ups are caused by interfering in-laws from both sides , a guy who gets married is getting married to one person , not the mother-in-law or the sisters in-law, same with the girl , she is getting hooked up to one guy and not his mother, who knows how her little prince likes his eggs boiled and his shirts starched .
Humans are not much different than other animals and once they reach a certain age they have to spread their wings and leave the nest . Ask any parent what they want for their children and they will tell you they want the best .......if that means the kids picking up and moving to say Australia , and taking the grandkids with them then most parents I think would say ...ok ...go do it , we love you , we will miss you , but its your life, go live it .

Do agree with you also on some things, my parents would back up any decision I made, be it to move away etc but thats never been what ive wanted. I wanted to stay near my family and must admit that if it wasnt for my mum and dad after I had the twins god only knows what state I would be in now. My mum was (and still is when needed) my rock and I know that I would have fallen apart after having the boys if it wasnt for her and my dad. Hence my want and need to be still close to them

BERNADETTE · 08-05-2008, 00:30

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Originally Posted by emzy

Do agree with you also on some things, my parents would back up any decision I made, be it to move away etc but thats never been what ive wanted. I wanted to stay near my family and must admit that if it wasnt for my mum and dad after I had the twins god only knows what state I would be in now. My mum was (and still is when needed) my rock and I know that I would have fallen apart after having the boys if it wasnt for her and my dad. Hence my want and need to be still close to them

Speaking from my own family (three brothers and three sisters) us three girls all live local and the boys have moved away. In my opinion girls tend to stay nearer home, could be wrong but would be nice to hear other peoples thoughts.

emzy · 08-05-2008, 00:32

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Originally Posted by BERNADETTE

Speaking from my own family (three brothers and three sisters) us three girls all live local and the boys have moved away. In my opinion girls tend to stay nearer home, could be wrong but would be nice to hear other peoples thoughts.

Think you may be right there, wouldnt say all but seems quite common, 3 girls 1 lad in my family, all us girls live in accy, bro went uni, lived away (inc china) but is back in accy now though but us girls have never moved away (yet)