Has Tradition And Respect Gone From The Old Days

[Kevan]

i THINK ALOT OF TRIDITION AND RESPECT HAS GONE FROM OUR BRITISH CULTURE OR (ENGLAND )FROM THE OLD DAYS..
FAMILYS ARE SOME WHAT LUCKY TO GET TO GEATHER, OF COURSE NOT FOR EVERY ONE OF US, BUT I SEE A DECLINE HOW FAMILYS USED TO OPERATE THAN WOT THEY DO TODAY.
ALSO TALKING TO THE NEXT DOOR TO YOU IS ANOTHER EXAMPLE...
REALLY TO SUM IT UP I BELEIVE PLACES LIKE EASTERN EUROPE AND OF COURSE OTHER COUNTRYS STILL HOLD THERE FAMILYS CLOSE TO GETHER WITH RESPECT AND TRADITION.
I WISH THE ENGLISH WERE MORE CONCERNED ABOUT THERE FAMILYS INSTEAD OF THEM SELFS,,, I KNOW WE LIVE IN THE RAT RACE AND IT CAN BE DIFFICULT TO MANAGE TO GET SOME OR ALLTHE FAMILY TOGEATHER AT TIMES, BUT I TRUELY THINK PEOPLE SHOULD MAKE MORE EFFORT,,, IF YOU WANT TO RESPOND TO THIS PLEASE DO ID BE MORE THAN DELITED

[AccyLass]

I am still quite young, well I like to think I am (27 by the way)
I make more effort to see my family than either of my parents (divorced), or brother, cousins or any of them
I phone, go round, anything I can
If I left it to them I wouldn't like to say how long it would be before I heard from any of them
I am very family orientated and would love to see my parents a lot more than I do now

[shillelagh]

A lot of people follow their jobs. My cousin is one of them. His job was moved to Poland and so he moved there. He still kept his house here and rented it out. His sister and her hubby - they moved to scotland due to her hubbys job. But yet their mother (my aunt) stayed in the house that they were brought up in till she died.

I can quite honestly say though i havent moved far from the house i was born in - ive been living in this house for the last 35 years. Mind you my boyfriend was born in huncoat and now lives in scotland and has done for the last 17 years. People move with their jobs, their partners etc a lot more now than what they used to do. It used to be that once you got a job you stayed in that job for life or something similar but when back in the 70s and 80s a lot of firms went bust and so they were out of work they followed the jobs that were available.

[cashman]

in many respects i think yes, n whilst i am only generalising i reckon that asian/ eastern european or whatever do treat the familys , elders etc with more respect,i also reckon it began here in the 80s, peoples views changed for the worse. many may disagree, but thats how i see it.

[garinda]

As far as family life is concerned, yes it has changed.

We are much more of a transient society now.

We no longer live in the same, or near street, as our extended family.

Plus, a greater number of women go out to work than ever before.

Are the evils of today's society down to the breakdown of the close extended family?

Possibly, but personally I think the change in us as a society becoming more insular, and not caring as much for the people around us, started on May 4th 1979, when we abandoned traditional British values of respecting one another, and started the gradual descent into a culture of greed, and what we could grab for ourselves.

[cashman]

Originally Posted by garinda

As far as family life is concerned, yes it has changed.

We are much more of a transient society now.

We no longer live in the same, or near street, as our extended family.

Plus, a greater number of women go out to work than ever before.

Are the evils of today's society down to the breakdown of the close extended family?

Possibly, but personally I think the change in us as a society becoming more insular, and not caring as much for the people around us, started on May 4th 1979, when we abandoned traditional British values of respecting one another, and started the gradual descent into a culture of greed, and what we could grab for ourselves.

so i was 7 months out.

[Bonnyboy]

Tradition and respect are not the same beast. Traditions can hark back centuries but times move on. I suspect that families, in general, are more distant these days (geographically) so the traditional family get together is less likely than it would be years ago.

Respect is something some of us were told to give our elders by default, not sure it still fits into today’s world.

As for my neighbours, they are bloody great, we are always hanging over the yard wall having a natter, we look after each others homes when we go on holiday, just generally help each other out. I know I’m lucky to have such neighbours but I find it’s a two way thing, an effort has to be made by all concerned.

[garinda]

Originally Posted by Bonnyboy

As for my neighbours, they are bloody great

Mine are too.

It took me ages in London to break through that self insulated shell southerners have, until my neighbours eventually grunted more than hello.

It was great to move back up north, and I'm blessed with having great neighbours.

I wouldn't go as far to say our doors are always on the latch, and we pop in each other's homes all day long, if we need a new donkey stone or a bit of black leading for instance, but it's not too far off the mark.

[cashman]

[QUOTE=Bonnyboy;571157
[FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3]Respect is something some of us were told to give our elders by default, not sure it still fits into today’s world. -----------------------------------------. why on earth should it not fit into todays world? my kids were taught at home to respect elders, n am happy to say both of em do. it may not fit into scumbags worlds, but it sure fits into mine.

[Bonnyboy]

Originally Posted by garinda

I'm blessed with having great neighbours.

I'm glad that you have. It's a real bonus having such neighbours and being neighbourly in general.....God forbid I ever get any of those nasty buggers living close like you see on some telly programmes. It must be hellish.

[Royboy39]

Originally Posted by cashman

in many respects i think yes, n whilst i am only generalising i reckon that asian/ eastern european or whatever do treat the familys , elders etc with more respect,i also reckon it began here in the 80s, peoples views changed for the worse. many may disagree, but thats how i see it.

I agree Cashy....I have two daughters who lead their own lives....love e'm to death, but, if they say i'ts Sunday I'm inclined to believe them.
BUT.......They have two of my Grandson's who respect their Grandad and if I say to them that is wrong...by the grace of God they believe me.
I am lucky and can afford to give them a good education and keep them away from the run of the mill (Got to be careful what I say here) temptations that are offered to the less fortunate in our society.

[garinda]

Originally Posted by Bonnyboy

I'm glad that you have. It's a real bonus having such neighbours and being neighbourly in general.....God forbid I ever get any of those nasty buggers living close like you see on some telly programmes. It must be hellish.

I agree, it would be a nightmare.

It must be bad living next door to that silly cow in Rishton, the one who keeps getting taken to court for playing Madonna at full blast 24/7.

Nevermind confiscating her music equipment, which she keeps replacing, she should be jailed to give her neighbours some peace.

[BERNADETTE]

Originally Posted by garinda

I agree, it would be a nightmare.

It must be bad living next door to that silly cow in Rishton, the one who keeps getting taken to court for playing Madonna at full blast 24/7.

Nevermind confiscating her music equipment, which she keeps replacing, she should be jailed to give her neighbours some peace.

She is a real weirdo, she used to come in the Con Club when I worked there. Generally it was to try and cadge of people. She got put in her shop though.

[LancYorkYankee]

Over here, it seems to vary for both the part of the country as well as cultural backround. I find up north, the Irish and Italians families put alot into keeping the family together. Heck, they even hug each other each time they see each other. My family was never much into the hugging. :>(

Down here in the south (mostly Scotch/Irish), the families tend to stay in the same place and are always getting together. Also, especially with the black families. I really envy those families that enjoy just hanging out together.

IT's really odd, even my wife's family (old swamp yankees), don't do much talking. Just the other day Cindy was on the phone with her Mum and they had a very long delightful conversation. I told her she should really call her parents once a week. I don't speak with my parents or siblings but maybe once every three months.

All for what it's worth!

Brian

[Bonnyboy]

Family members hug each other...Ewwww

Just kidding, our family dont do hugs, lord knows why. If you cant hug your family who the hell can you hug