is it a boy or a girl...? should we find out ?

glasgow guy · 01-05-2007, 21:54

we are going for our 20 week scan next week and we have both decided to find out what sex the baby is - providing its not being shy on the day of course...and I know some folk may say that the scans sometimes are not always correct which is fair enough - but is finding out what sex the baby is before its born taking away the excitement from the big day ?
I personally dont think it is taking anything away from the big day at all for when he/she enters the world as I see it as putting a person to the name !- that and the fact little peanut is finally here !
whats your thoughts on this..should we?...shouldnt we ? - would you given the choice ?

flashy · 01-05-2007, 21:55

i found out when i was pregnant with Reece, only because i was nosey and wanted to know what colour to buy things

glasgow guy · 01-05-2007, 21:58

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Originally Posted by flashytart

i found out when i was pregnant with Reece, only because i was nosey and wanted to know what colour to buy things

well there is that reason as well...nothing like being prepared I say !

flashy · 01-05-2007, 21:59

thats why i found out, but sometimes you cant find out

it may have its legs crossed

davo69 · 01-05-2007, 21:59

no no
you cant beat not noing

cashman · 01-05-2007, 22:34

thats entirely up too you 2 glasgowguy, personally dont see any problem with it,but know people that do.

LancYorkYankee · 02-05-2007, 01:08

I take it this is your first? First congrats on already being a 20 week old father! We chose not to know for our first. Actually, never had an ultrasound so I guess that help us not knowing!

For our second, Joshua, there were thought to be complications so they had an ultrasound done. We were told that they were 95% sure he was a girl. So, prior to heading to the hospital, we asked Annie if she wanted to have Allison with one L or two.

I was pleasantly shocked when he came out all boy

. When I got home I said, "Annie, guess who's here?" She reply is it Allison? I said nope, it's Joshua. She started crying saying "I don't want Joshua, I want Allison."

Sometimes not knowing can be an asset!

Brian

Tinkerbelle · 02-05-2007, 08:30

LOL! Don't take it as gospel either Glasgow Guy, my little Kayleigh had to be be quickly re-named Thomas when he arrived

lancsdave · 02-05-2007, 08:57

I found it was better knowing. Before deciding on a name we could at least refer to my daughter as her, rather than it.

accymel · 02-05-2007, 09:10

With my 1st i liked the mystery & tbh i wasn't sure throughout the pregnancy so it was lemons & whites, when just born awaiting the nurse to say congrats it a boy or its a girl, had 2 names sorted felt more traditional.

With subsequent babies better to find out for a host of good reasons as finances might be tighter, room etc. With my subsequent i had a very strong feeling what sex of baby i was having so when came for the scan i had a little wager with the scanner, they only then could confirm it cos i was right hehehehehe

& the little ****** swore at me on the scan Peter Kay style lol.

addy82 · 02-05-2007, 10:48

When i was pregnant and went for my scan i had all the in tentions of finding out wether it was a boy or a girl, but when it came to it they couldnt tell either way! Im so glad that they couldnt because it was all the more exciting, especially when she finally arrived and the midwife said 'its a girl!'

SPUGGIE J · 02-05-2007, 12:02

I didnt want to know so I could enjoy it more. The not knowing made the whole thing more exciting. Some do want to know some dont its down to personal choice unless you are hoping to reserve a place in a same sex private school.

lettie · 02-05-2007, 15:52

It's a very personal choice Glasgow Guy. From a midwife's point of view, the couples who don't know tend to be more excited on the big day. I have known several scans to be wrong, bearing in mind that 5% will be wrong. For a unit with 4,000 deliveries a year about 200 of those scans will be wrong for the gender of the baby (what is being scanned here is very small).

Many people choose names for both sexes just in case but will change the name a few days after the birth because they feel that the baby doesn't suit the name.

Whatever you decide to do, make sure that it is what you both want. One person knowing and the other not knowing causes problems and arguments. If your other half wants to know but you don't, then I would strongly advise that you don't find out. Remember that your scan is for diagnostic purposes only. The Sonographer will be looking for obvious abnormalities in the baby and placenta, looking at the gender of the baby is merely a courtesy and is not documented in the records, therefore there is no legal comeback if you go out and spend a fortune on baby stuff aimed at one sex.

Whatever you decide, make sure that you have a few quid with you for photos. I think they are currently about £4. People think this is expensive but it is a fraction of the cost of the photo and without that payment the NHS couldn't afford to do them. If you get a photo, store it in a brown envelope and don't expose it to light, it will last longer this way as they fade over time. Photocopy the picture before storage and show people the copy. Most of all, enjoy your scan and be prepared for baby jigging around like a loony during it......... they don't like it you see.

pipinfort · 02-05-2007, 16:54

my missus is due next sunday with baby number 2, we have found out the sex both times, this time we have have 4 scans in total( one 3d) and it was confirmed each time so i think it is a definate...... well i`ll tell you next weekend hopefully

panther · 02-05-2007, 17:18

i didnt know with my first, because they didnt used to tell you years ago

but my second, i wanted to know, and found out i was having a boy!!

i still bought clothes etc that would suit a boy or girl, just in case it was the other, in case it was his cord hanging

, but it was a boy, and by eck, hes a right lad!!

so yeh i wanted to know, its handy if you want to buy clothes etc, but like i did just buy a few yellow or green colours, just in case

congratulations by the way.....

you too pipinfort......

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