nursing homes + care homes

[Mick]

Just wondering
Anne and Slinky work in nursing homes
would you put your parents or family in one ?
or if older would you go voluntarily?
to help family out

[MUMMIBOO]

Why you asking are you getting worried! lol

[flashy]

i would never ever put a parent in a nursing/residential home, i have worked in several over the years and they are awful, i worked at Altham care home, the hollies, le-moors, sparthfield and crawshaw hall in crawshaw booth rawtenstall and ive also worked in the community looking after the elderly and disabled, i wouldnt trust any of them, i'd rather look after my dad myself

[MITZY]

Sometimes you have no choice but to put an elderly relative in a nursing home, I'd never put them in a residential home for the elderly, there is a difference I believe.

[Doug]

I’ve worked in them over the years and I’ve met some wonderful and caring people, unfortunately I’ve also met some real ********. There's a very fine line between caring and abusing and quite often people slip through the net of checks that are in force and go on to make peoples life miserable.

Other elements that go on the make life grim for people living in some care homes is the lack of relevant training for staff and managers, poor house keeping, stinking of pee, poor nutrition and looking like the cast of a homeless drama and sat round the edges of the day rooms etc, are all of the negatives that people fear.

Fortunately the vast majority of care homes safeguard those in their care and there are some very pleasant places. Would I place a relative in one? No.

[panther]

old people tend to lose there independance when they go in them places, my grandma went in ones years ago and she hated it, so no i wouldnt put a relative in there, unless he/she was a nasty git, but i certainly wouldnt like to go in one, no thankyou, think id rather be dead

[slinky]

Originally Posted by flashytart

i would never ever put a parent in a nursing/residential home, i have worked in several over the years and they are awful, i worked at Altham care home, the hollies, le-moors, sparthfield and crawshaw hall in crawshaw booth rawtenstall and ive also worked in the community looking after the elderly and disabled, i wouldnt trust any of them, i'd rather look after my dad myself

TRY avoiding the crap then

I have worked in Nursing homes and residential homes. I know the bad and I know the good ( occupational hazard, ya get to find out the good from the bad).

It is a very very hard decision to make when anyone has to put their loved one in a nursing home, be it a Mother, father, husband, wife or even child.
No-one can say for sure what they would do/have to do, under these circumstances, and I don't think it is a decision that is made lightly by any family.

As what Mick asked..... yes I would. I know the very best ones and I know the very crap ones. There is a lot of stigma attached to nursing homes, but, carers that I have had the fortune of working with are very very professional and good at their jobs. It is a 24 hour job looking after someone who is very very poorly, and in todays society, where women have a house to keep, children to bring up and go to work full time, its very difficult to look after another sick family member around the clock. Back in the older days, when women stayed at home, it was the norm that sick members of the family would be looked after at home, but, un fortunately, due to todays high demands on family life, it's not possible.

And at the other end of the scale, it's very hard for a man/women of 80 years old to look after the needs of husband/wife through deterioration of health 24 hrs a day.

NO-one can say what they would do if they WERE ever faced with the prospect, until they are faced with it.


(( thats my two penneth worth ))

[slinky]

OH and another thing..... if you are prepared to work in a nursing/care home that you think is crap and care is bad and do nothing about it, then you ARE as bad as the rest of the scum that keep it hush hush

I worked in a nursing home once for 4 hours..... I walked out in the end and cried buckets when I got home.... the care in that place was shocking...and YES, it was reported.

[Mick]

I believe you HAVE to take NVQ and go on courses on a regular basis now by law
i know Anne had to take her NVQ 3 and was asked to take the Managers course too

i don't think i would mind going into a good home as long as they had broadband

[Bonnyboy]

Will strive to keep this little family unit as independent as possible for as long as possible. None of us know what is round the corner, you can never say never.

[cashman]

to answer mick, i personally would not go in one, i also agree with slinks wholeheartedly there is some very good uns, the reason i wouldn,t go in one,aint any reflection on care homes,its just the way i'm built, independant and more importantly too damn stubborn. cant answer for parents,mine are long gone, but if they were not, its not summat anyone can honestly say until it ever crops up, cos everyone circumstances now may well be differant further down the line. life CHANGES all the time.

[slinky]

Originally Posted by mick

I believe you HAVE to take NVQ and go on courses on a regular basis now by law
i know Anne had to take her NVQ 3 and was asked to take the Managers course too

There are still quite a lot of places advertise in Observer for un trained carers ( although it does say, must be willing to work towards NVQ)

There are mandatory training sessions that EVERY care/nursing home MUST adhere to............

Health and safety
Manual Handling
fire safety training
Basic first aid
and where you are required to handle food ... basic food hygiene.

Anyone can be trained in these things.... but it takes good carers and managers to keep checks that these things are being done day in day out.

I am trained to NVQ level 3, with a hell of a lot of other things that I trained for..... the last nursing home that I worked in was a stickler for training courses....but its all worth while

[slinky]

Originally Posted by cashman

to answer mick, i personally would not go in one, i also agree with slinks wholeheartedly there is some very good uns, the reason i wouldn,t go in one,aint any reflection on care homes,its just the way i'm built, independant and more importantly too damn stubborn. cant answer for parents,mine are long gone, but if they were not, its not summat anyone can honestly say until it ever crops up, cos everyone circumstances now may well be differant further down the line. life CHANGES all the time.

Do you know cashy... you are every good carers dream!! we love you ****** that are stubborn and determined to keep on them old pins.... thats what keeps us buggers going.

[lancsdave]

I would rather my family put me in one than become a burden on them.

( No Slinky you don't need to send me a brochure just yet )

[Mick]

Originally Posted by cashman

to answer mick, i personally would not go in one, i also agree with slinks wholeheartedly there is some very good uns, the reason i wouldn,t go in one,aint any reflection on care homes,its just the way i'm built, independant and more importantly too damn stubborn. cant answer for parents,mine are long gone, but if they were not, its not summat anyone can honestly say until it ever crops up, cos everyone circumstances now may well be differant further down the line. life CHANGES all the time.

This is one of the reasons i asked this my mum is 76 fine in body but starting with dementia
just forgetting little things like cleaning ,
she was very house proud but on visiting her we find things very dirty
for one we always go to the chippy rather than cook a meal there
she is very independent , lives on her own seeing two husbands off and being an ex nurse herself .
she lives in Preston my brother gets her shopping at weekends etc but cant look after her 24,7 the way she is going she will out live both of us .