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[emamum]

he is not allowed coke... far to much sugar for him especially when you add it to the other sugar he had.... he hardly has any sugar at home and he has a reaction to it!

[flashy]

he will have a reaction to it if he's never allowed it em, like i said, a bit won't harm him, when he starts going to school on his own he'll probably bunk off to the shop and eat all he can because you have dissallowed him for so long

[BERNADETTE]

Em there is nobody who knows your child better than you. If you have banned certain things I don't think you have done it lightly. If you can't rely on the people looking after him to follow your guidelines think you know what you have to do. Might sound harsh but at the end of the day all that matters is the lads wellbeing.

[cashman]

Originally Posted by BERNADETTE

Em there is nobody who knows your child better than you. If you have banned certain things I don't think you have done it lightly. If you can't rely on the people looking after him to follow your guidelines think you know what you have to do. Might sound harsh but at the end of the day all that matters is the lads wellbeing.

i dont think thats harsh,think its sensible.

[kathleen_firth]

Originally Posted by emamum23

he is not allowed coke... far to much sugar for him especially when you add it to the other sugar he had.... he hardly has any sugar at home and he has a reaction to it!

my sister in law water coke and and my sister doesnt allow her child any coke either

i too wont be letting my child drink coke

[flashy]

Reece doesnt have full fat coke, he's allowed diet coke because there is less caffeine in it and no sugar only sweetners

[West Ender]

If grandmother knows the sort of diet your son has she is doing one of two things. She is either trying to win in some kind of affection contest or she thinks your ideas are wrong. It's probably the first one - he doesn't come very often so, when he does, I'll treat him to things he doesn't usually get so he'll want to come again.

The woman is a chef so, presumably, she knows about nutrition and she knows that every now and then won't harm. It's not the way I would do things but - it happens.

[Less]

Perhaps if you consider, going to grandma's as a treat, a place where anything goes?

Yeah o.k. you're mum isn't as strict as you would be, then your child will be able to enjoy both of you? Rather than see you arguing over something that you dismiss, but your Mother enjoy's?

[emamum]

my mum has been a chef for years but i lived off microwave meals, knowing my mum, it is to get one up an me, nothing about affection.. she hardly ever bothers with us, she only had him the other night so that she could tell ppl that she has him because i cant cope...... that is what she tells ppl, because they tell me.

[Less]

Originally Posted by emamum23

my mum has been a chef for years but i lived off microwave meals, knowing my mum, it is to get one up an me, nothing about affection.. she hardly ever bothers with us, she only had him the other night so that she could tell ppl that she has him because i cant cope...... that is what she tells ppl, because they tell me.

So really, this goes deeper than, 'what mum gives my kids', You feel like mummy let you down, and you can't trust her with your little produce?

[WillowTheWhisp]

Originally Posted by flashytart

Reece doesnt have full fat coke, he's allowed diet coke because there is less caffeine in it and no sugar only sweetners

Some of those sweeteners can have more side effects than sugar. My late husband (who was diabetic) was warned off diet drinks by a hospital specialist.

[panther]

i have to agree with flashy on this, a bit of junk every now and then does no harm, its only when they have it constantly that it starts to do harm.

my kids eat veg, etc, but sometimes i will let them eat what they want, but not always

[blazey]

Do you give your son a birthday cake when its his birthday? They're full of artificial sweeteners, sugar, colourings etc, but I cant imagine you are going to tell me you give him a plain cake for his birthday?

Fish fingers aren't going to hurt him, and neither is a glass of coke. Its bad of your mother to undermine you, but perhaps she thinks you're being a bit too strict about what he eats and drinks? Did you not eat that kind of food when you where younger?

One thing parents do i've noticed, in my experience at least, is to not buy things for their children to try simply because they dont like the food themselves my mum doesnt like cheesecake, so we never buy cheesecake, point is, you need to avoid imposing your choices onto your children, because they wont learn how to make choices for themselves properly, they'll always turn to you, or worse, when they get to an age where you cant watch their every move they'll try things that they know you wouldn't allow and rebel against you, which can be disastrous.

Your little boy is clearly following your example and upholding the rule of no fizzy drinks, but is he simply following it because its your choice or because its his choice?

[emamum]

that is all i ate when i was younger and i was always in and out of hospital...
unhealthy food is obviously bad for you and i am trying to give my child the best start... if you had met my son and seen how energetic he is then you would understand why he doesnt have sugar!!! i breast fed because it is best, i cooked and blended his food when he was weaning instead of using commercial baby food and i cook for him now.. because i am his mum and it is my job to do my best for my child.. he is the right weight for his height, the right height for his age and his teeth are perfect..because i have looked after his health.. he knows and understands why he cant eat rubbish all the time, he counts his 5 a day and he knows the difference between healthy and unhealthy, because i have taught him so that when he is old enough to make his own decisions, he will understand the health implications of eating crap! he does have choices but they are limited, he is still only 6 and he refused the coke because he is not alowed it and he never has been, because they are my rules. i didnt decide these things because i had nothing better to do one day, i did it because i want the best for my son, i have a qualification in diet and nutrition for children, so i DO (for a change) know what i am talking about!

[BERNADETTE]

At the end of the day it is Em's choice and as I said before she knows him better than anyone. If she knows what makes him hyper she has obviously done the process and elimination thing. Her mum should back her up all the way as the grandparents on here have said they would!!!