parents

[West Ender]

You don't have to let him stay with your mum, do you? Knowing what she will do and say, and still letting him stay with her, is saying that it's OK as long as you can tell everyone she's wrong afterwards. She says she has him because you can't cope, you say you can. Just say, "No thanks," next time.

[emamum]

he has only stayed at her house twice! i didnt agree to it, she told my lad she was taking him to a show and i couldnt say no, because he was so excited! i hated it both times he stayed....

[blazey]

I think you should try not to let it get to you, simply for the sake of the relationship you all have together. I'm sure your boy will pick up on the tension between you both and it isnt really necessary.

Simply tell her you want her to enforce your rules whilst he is with you, and if she doesn't, just try not to let it jeopardise your relationship with her.

[emamum]

ha ha ha ha ...... i have no relationship with my mum

[West Ender]

But you do, otherwise she wouldn't be in the equation. You don't like the way she is but you haven't cut her out of your life, or your son's.

[blazey]

Originally Posted by emamum23

ha ha ha ha ...... i have no relationship with my mum

It may annoy you that your mum didn't bring you up the way you wished you had, but you've turned out alright and you've got a beautiful little boy who's clearly going to grow up into a lovely young man.

I know you probably think that your the way you are to be better than your mum, to prove her wrong and to be everything she wasnt, but I think that its likely you have become who you are because of those perhaps negative aspects of her parenthood, and you should perhaps be a bit more thankful that she was a bit rubbish I know that sounds a bit silly, but sometimes its being treated like your in the real world rather than an all too friendly one that helps children turn out to be better people in their adult lives.

[emamum]

i turned into the person i am despite my mum, not because of her....... i only lived with her till i was 12........

[blazey]

Well I never knew my real dad, and I was bitter about having to be brought up by a man who blatantly wasn't my real dad and hated me, and I was bitter about it and I still am bitter about both those people, but at the end of the day, their failures as parents made me wants to be better than them and prove them wrong, and I feel I have done, I knew I would do, and its made me who I am today.

I know exactly how you feel, not in the sense of mothers, mines been brilliant, but in the sense of fathers, i've pretty much been let down time and time again, but I'm not going to pretend that its had no effect on me and the person i've become.

[emamum]

my other mum made me into the person i am.......

[blazey]

Originally Posted by emamum23

my other mum made me into the person i am.......

You said yourself that you believe your regular illnesses and hospital visits were most likely increased by the bad diet your mum fed you, would you not say that you have become the parent you are today mainly because of that experience?
You didnt say your other mum fed you on entirely home made foods rather than processed foods which led to good health, you only mentioned your mums flaws and what discomforts they caused you, and therefore you are modelling yourself around everything she wasn't, and everything you felt she did wrong?

[Yolanda25]

blazey shut up, u are annoying me now, come back to the thread when u have kids

[blazey]

Originally Posted by Yolanda25

blazey shut up, u are annoying me now, come back to the thread when u have kids

Well god help your kids when you cant even stop a bloody puppy from running away. You silly bint, you could've at least used spell check on your poster as well before you put them up all over ossy 'Choclate' indeed.

[emamum]

wasnt that yvonne?

[Yolanda25]

whos puppy?
i never lost mine, my dog is at home and she is black and white lol u sad person

[blazey]

Ah well my mistake in regards to the puppy, but I still think your a stupid interfering bint.