Signs

BERNADETTE · 13-07-2008, 13:07

Has anybody else who has lost a loved one had any signs that they are still around?? Not long atfter Ianto died I got a couple of signs and then in the early hours of this morning got what I consider to be another one. Was just wondering if anybody else has received any and if they brought you comfort.

Loz · 13-07-2008, 15:07

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Originally Posted by BERNADETTE

Has anybody else who has lost a loved one had any signs that they are still around?? Not long atfter Ianto died I got a couple of signs and then in the early hours of this morning got what I consider to be another one. Was just wondering if anybody else has received any and if they brought you comfort.

Yeah,not long after my mum died for a while i could smell her perfume around me and felt like she was still around looking after me.
Also my dog duke who loved my mum would sit at the bottom of the stairs barking at nothing.
Again i believe it was my mum and it did bring comfort at the time.

Margaret Pilkington · 13-07-2008, 15:22

I know that a lot of folk will pooh-pooh this, but after my dad died, my Mum would get up and find the TV switched on...and also the kettle boiling its' head off(it was electric, but in the days before kettles switched themselves off when they had boiled).

And when Ma was diagnosed with cancer I came home from work and switched on the computer and got a blue screen with a little box in it and it said 'I'm here' and at the same time i could smell cigarette smoke.....no-one smokes in my house.
I can find no explanation for that episode......and there have been others that have happened when Ma and I have been together.......the computer screen one made me think I was going 'NUTS' because only I saw it...but the shared experiences have given both Ma and me great comfort.

Eric · 13-07-2008, 17:06

Never had this experience myself ... but have heard of strange things happening to friends of mine. Altho' after I had a special dog put down, I did seem to see her out of the corner of my eye, but I put this down, and still do, to just plain missing her.

West Ender · 13-07-2008, 18:40

I may have told these stories before and, if I have, sorry for repeating them.

The first time was, in fact, the night following the day Colin had died. I was very much in shock and couldn't sleep and I got up at 2 a.m. I kept walking backwards and forwards from the French window to the end of the garden, not really knowing what I was doing. About 3.30 day began to break (it was mid-Summer) and I looked up at the sky towards the East. There were a few clouds around and suddenly one was illuminated by the sun and made a huge, glowing letter C in the sky. It was, strangely, very comforting.

The next time was January 1997 and Colin had died the previous June. We had some awful gales and the lovely red climbing rose he had planted by our front door had blown down and broken. I'd had to prune it back to only 4' high and it was little more than a stem and a few bare, twiggy branches, not a leaf or leaf-bud in sight.

On my birthday, the 18th, I drove home from work on a dark, cold, wet afternoon and pulled up on the drive feeling sad and miserable. I noticed something appeared to be stuck in the bare twigs of the rose tree so I went and had a look. I was gobsmacked to see that the "something" was a perfect red rose just opening at the top of the chopped off stem. Colin had always brought (or sent, if he was away) roses on my birthday and my instinct said, straight away, "He's sent this." Needless to say I went inside and howled for over an hour.

pussycat · 13-07-2008, 19:54

yes i have , when my older sister died , i felt someone sittin on my bed , my kids were i,ll at the time of her death and i asked her to make them well again , cuz at the time there were only 1 and 2 , the next mornin they were fine , Then not long after my little sister died my mirror started moving,its never done that before and that mirror has been there for years , i do believe in that your love ones are there when you need then, not when you ask for them , just when you realy need help , there always there look over you , helping you go the rigth way in life , but when they think you don,t need them , then they go to someone else in your family that need them , but they keep poping back to see how you are , well thats what i believe anyway ,

Less · 13-07-2008, 20:08

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Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington

I know that a lot of folk will pooh-pooh this,

pooh-pooh,

As much as I would love this to be true, let's face it, when we are suffering a loss, we are often more than willing to accept what we thought, to be what we want, rather than what is, I wish it was true but we all have to go through bereavement, it is natures way of curing the heartache.

Enjoy those melancholy moments if you can but don't let them rule your life.

Bonnyboy · 13-07-2008, 20:12

Nothing like this has happened to me yet. That’s not to say it never will.

Some lovely posts in this thread

West Ender · 13-07-2008, 20:12

I have to agree with you, Less. Even though my experiences were very personal and very real, at the time, I don't really believe in an after-life.

No, Hell, I'm an avowed agnostic aren't I? That means I'm a "don't know". Pardon me while I adjust my saddle on this fence.

flashy · 13-07-2008, 20:17

yep...i'm convinced i have seen my mum (she died when i was 15)

when Reece was born i had him in the cot next to my bed and i swear i saw a light shining at the bottom of his cot, and i came over all warm and funny..now i have put this in a post before on here and people came up with different explanations about what it may have been, but i still believe it was my mum coming to look at Reece

Less · 13-07-2008, 20:21

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Originally Posted by West Ender

I have to agree with you, Less. Even though my experiences were very personal and very real, at the time, I don't really believe in an after-life.

No, Hell, I'm an avowed agnostic aren't I? That means I'm a "don't know". Pardon me while I adjust my saddle on this fence.

Well, your an agnostic, I've just re-read what I've said and I don't believe it, so what does that make me?

emamum · 13-07-2008, 20:23

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Originally Posted by flashytart

yep...i'm convinced i have seen my mum (she died when i was 15)

when Reece was born i had him in the cot next to my bed and i swear i saw a light shining at the bottom of his cot, and i came over all warm and funny..now i have put this in a post before on here and people came up with different explanations about what it may have been, but i still believe it was my mum coming to look at Reece

I think i have posted before thati experienced something similar to that flashy but i clearly saw a little boy looking at him.....

Royboy39 · 13-07-2008, 20:25

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Originally Posted by Less

Well, your an agnostic, I've just re-read what I've said and I don't believe it, so what does that make me?

Less...for you to ask questions like that you must have been on the pop

Less · 13-07-2008, 20:25

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Originally Posted by flashytart

yep...i'm convinced i have seen my mum (she died when i was 15)

when Reece was born i had him in the cot next to my bed and i swear i saw a light shining at the bottom of his cot, and i came over all warm and funny..now i have put this in a post before on here and people came up with different explanations about what it may have been, but i still believe it was my mum coming to look at Reece

It wasn't a natural birth was it? (No Drugs)

No, sorry it involved you, silly question I apologise.

emamum · 13-07-2008, 20:28

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Originally Posted by Less

It wasn't a natural birth was it? (No Drugs)

No, sorry it involved you, silly question I apologise.

I think flashy had a c-section but mine was a natural birth