What is a bully? - Page 2

jedimaster · 16-01-2007, 23:29

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Originally Posted by accymel

So telling someone u have had difficulties with to their face, being open & honest about their feelings towards that person.......is that bullying??

naah that's just honesty!

Tinkerbelle · 16-01-2007, 23:31

I'm sorry but 'bullying' was a serious issue when I was younger but now it's used so often out of context it has become a joke. For instance, if I tell one of my kids off one of the others whispers (thinking I can't hear) "BULLIED!!!" How can serious issues regarding bullying be addressed when minor incidents are regarded as bullying?

I still don't get it!

accymel · 16-01-2007, 23:32

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Originally Posted by jedimaster

naah that's just honesty!

Even if your honesty isnt nice & complimentary ?????????

Tinkerbelle · 16-01-2007, 23:32

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Originally Posted by jedimaster

naah that's just honesty!

Honesty can often come over as aggressive. Is that bullying?

accymel · 16-01-2007, 23:35

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Originally Posted by Tinkerbelle

I'm sorry but 'bullying' was a serious issue when I was younger but now it's used so often out of context it has become a joke. For instance, if I tell one of my kids off one of the others whispers (thinking I can't hear) "BULLIED!!!" How can serious issues regarding bullying be addressed when minor incidents are regarded as bullying?

I still don't get it!

Thats a bloody point???

Where is the line drawn?? How many times as when u were a kid u got told off for tittle tattling/tell taling on someone over a very minor incident of little name calling but then theres a kid with a serious sytematic mental & sometimes violent bullying that says ..nothing nor admits about it, suffering in silence.

There must be a line between ?

Mancie · 16-01-2007, 23:35

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Originally Posted by accymel

So telling someone u have had difficulties with to their face, being open & honest about their feelings towards that person.......is that bullying??

I would'nt say it is.. telling them how it is.. but then to spread your opionin to others.. to give yourself back up, is maybe bullying.

accymel · 16-01-2007, 23:39

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Originally Posted by Mancie

I would'nt say it is.. telling them how it is.. but then to spread your opionin to others.. to give yourself back up, is maybe bullying.

Tho couldnt that talking behind back be for something else like, sharing a problem or asking opinion on how to handle the situ or to gain factual support in a mutual shared problem .......... thing is we do all do it ...is it human nature to gossip? the newspapers/media/tabloid make a living off it!!

Tinkerbelle · 16-01-2007, 23:40

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Originally Posted by accymel

There must be a line between ?

That's my point, Where does disagreements, dislike of a person or general strength/weakness of a character end and bullying start?

Mancie · 16-01-2007, 23:47

yeah Mel...lol.. what do you mean?

WillowTheWhisp · 16-01-2007, 23:48

Being honest with someone about not getting on with them can't be bullying but if someone keeps making the other person's life a misery then that surely is.

accymel · 16-01-2007, 23:49

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Originally Posted by Mancie

yeah Mel...lol.. what do you mean?

well.... even gossiping about someone could be deemed as bullying

chav1 · 17-01-2007, 00:19

if making somones life a misery is bullying them maybe its about time marrage was outlawed

garinda · 17-01-2007, 01:05

Good thread Tinks.

Sometimes I wonder if it appears as if I am a cyber bully on here. If I think I'm right, and someone else is being rude, or patronising to anyone, I will use everything at my disposal to get the better of that person. Is that bullying? I don't know.

Like I'm sure lots of people on here, I could tell you how I was bullied as a child up to about the age of eleven for being a 'puff'. After that I used humour as an armour and it stopped. I realised if people didn't like me, tough titty. Also being 5 foot 11, and built like a brick sh*t house sort of helped.

What I'm proud of most in life, is at about the age of 14, I went against my classmates mob rule, and protected, and physically stopped the bullying of other kids.

Bullying can take many forms, but to me always shows a weakness on the bully's part.

jedimaster · 17-01-2007, 01:11

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Originally Posted by Tinkerbelle

Honesty can often come over as aggressive. Is that bullying?

i wouldn't say so though i suppose it depends on the context in which you are using the honesty.

i suppose if someone were overwieight and a person repeatedly referred to it for the purpose of belittling them orto make them feel insecure or hurt then yes
but if a person were to refer to it once with no intention of causing any hurt (ie just making an observation) then no

i guess what i'm trying to say is for it to be bullying there has to be the intent there to cause either repeated physical or mental hurt.

jedimaster · 17-01-2007, 01:14

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Originally Posted by garinda

Good thread Tinks.

Sometimes I wonder if it appears as if I am a cyber bully on here. If I think I'm right, and someone else is being rude, or patronising to anyone, I will use everything at my disposal to get the better of that person. Is that bullying? I don't know

i wouldn't say that rindy you've just got your own opinions and you stick to your guns
a very respectable characteristic!