What's your worst fear

[MargaretR]

Live people fear death - take reassurance from the fact that dead people don't

[garinda]

My biggest fear, if you can call it that, is having regrets.

Being on my deathbed, whenever that may be, and wishing 'if only'. I'd find that very sad.

Happily I have no regrets in my life so far, and as for other fears, they'd take up to much of my time and effort to expend any of my energy on them. They'd unnecessarily waste too much time, that could be spent more productively.

Even as an atheist I think these words are very apt.

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."

[katex]

That's a very touching post Garinda, and hit a nerve with me.

My mum always said to us don't grieve too much when I go, I have no regrets in life, have had a good husband, good children, short of nothing I 'needed' and never suffered any ill health. She was 89 when she died, and it did make her passing easier for me, as recalled these words.

[garinda]

Originally Posted by katex

That's a very touching post Garinda, and hit a nerve with me.

My mum always said to us don't grieve too much when I go, I have no regrets in life, have had a good husband, good children, short of nothing I 'needed' and never suffered any ill health. She was 89 when she died, and it did make her passing easier for me, as recalled these words.

Thank you.

I can understand Jaysay's fear about being alone when he dies, but personally I think it's quite sad. Sad because it's fretting about something we can't do anything about.

When my dad died, it was lucky that we were all on the bed with him. I'd raced up from London, not knowing that he only had a few hours left. We were able to tell him he was a much loved husband/dad/father-in-law. We were able to be there as he breathed his last breath.

We were lucky in a way to have that privilige, but on the other hand he could have passed away with none of us there, but he would still have known that he was loved, and his life as a husband and dad had been appreciated because he already knew it, because we'd told him before.

Sometimes I think I must be a right soppy sod...but I don't care.

None of us has a guaranteed time of exit from this life.

What we can be certain of though is making sure that those we care about, know they are loved.

You don't even need to say those words. A simple act can speak a thousand words, when it comes to showing that emotion we call love.

[AccyLass]

I just wanted to say that what Garinda and Katex have said on this thread is lovely

[pipinfort]

Ditto..........

[katex]

Originally Posted by AccyLass28

I just wanted to say that what Garinda and Katex have said on this thread is lovely

Maybe you could think about your Gran who died on Sunday this way Accylass .. she did appear, from what you have said, to have been a happy and contented lady who enjoyed the company of her family.

My worse fear is, of course after losing my family, is not particularly to die alone, but not to be found for a while and my left overs to be found in a state of decomposition ... yuk.

[garinda]

I like these two quotes too.

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when.
But you can decide how you're going to live now.
-- Joan Baez

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore.
Dream.
Discover.
-- Mark Twain

[AccyLass]

Originally Posted by katex

Maybe you could think about your Gran who died on Sunday this way Accylass .. she did appear, from what you have said, to have been a happy and contented lady who enjoyed the company of her family.

Yeah, thanks Kate

[garinda]

Originally Posted by katex

Maybe you could think about your Gran who died on Sunday this way Accylass .. she did appear, from what you have said, to have been a happy and contented lady who enjoyed the company of her family.

My worse fear is, of course after losing my family, is not particularly to die alone, but not to be found for a while and my left overs to be found in a state of decomposition ... yuk.

I'm sure you'd decompose as beautifully as you lived.

Stop fretting, if you don't post for more than a certain amount of time, other than when you're away in sunnier climes, I'll make sure things are set in motion, to make sure you're fear doesn't happen.

[katex]

Originally Posted by garinda

I'm sure you'd decompose as beautifully as you lived.

Stop fretting, if you don't post for more than a certain amount of time, other than when you're away in sunnier climes, I'll make sure things are set in motion, to make sure you're fear doesn't happen.

Aaah bless... gosh, we've got 'maudling' 'aint we.

Perhaps you could be the consultant with my dress Garinda ... LOL. Although sure daughter will make sure my shroud is a colour that suits me, and mascara in place.

[West Ender]

I can't stand to be in totally black room because I feel that I can't breathe. A tiny chink of light makes it OK but total darkness suffocates me so I absolutely dread it.

[lindsay ormerod]

Anything happening to my daughter.

(and I wasn't being thoughtless, I was out at working, providing for said daughter! )

[lettie]

I don't think I have a worst fear. I tend not to spend time worrying about things that I cannot control, so I guess I'm with Garinda and Katex on that one.

[jaysay]

Originally Posted by lettie

I don't think I have a worst fear. I tend not to spend time worrying about things that I cannot control, so I guess I'm with Garinda and Katex on that one.

I was the same lettie, until I had a near miss 6 months ago, unfortunately its now at the back of my mind, and spending a lot of time on my own doesn't help much either