Christopher Seymour - Page 4

blazey · 13-06-2007, 11:06

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Originally Posted by piltymon

OK then, here's the facts. I did NOT abandon my daughter. I am NOT a dad that suddenly decided to care either. I fought through the courts for years to see her so if anyone wants to lay blame then you can lay it at mothers door. Mothers regularly use kids as weapons because they are bitter that the dad has left them etc. I've searched for years to find and keep in touch with my daughter. When people send me nasty karma and messages it just proves how small minded they are. You could post in a forum that the pope likes god and some idiot would argue the point. Maybe I did make mistakes in the past but does that mean that I should be shot at dawn? Why can't people let this older, much wiser man make some amends for not being there for his daughter?

I should probaby speak up here. At the end of the day, I think the court was quite capable of making the right decision with the scenario and I think although the decision wasn't what anyone wanted, I dont think its fair to lay the blame on the other person.
My mum did very well for me without a dad and there isnt anything in the world to blame her for, especially not a courts decision!

I think everyone deserves a chance to prove themselves but there isnt need to give them repeated chances. My mum let the decision fall into someone elses hands and they chose what they thought was right, so she left it at that. At least I didnt have to go through it all when I can remember it properly, because I dont want to know every single bad detail.
I'd rather just make up my own mind. I'm not a little baby now, im 18 years old and I think i'm now capable of making my own mind up.

piltymon · 13-06-2007, 11:08

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Originally Posted by lindsay ormerod

Just ignore 'em Chris; this place is a shining beacon to small minded individuals with too much time on their hands sometimes. It's great that you have found what you were both looking for; don't let them spoil it for you. The majority of us on here are genuine, nice people.

I've met some great people on here Lyndsey love and you're still one of the loveliest. Thanks love.

Margaret Pilkington · 13-06-2007, 11:20

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Originally Posted by piltymon

OK then, here's the facts. I did NOT abandon my daughter. I am NOT a dad that suddenly decided to care either. I fought through the courts for years to see her so if anyone wants to lay blame then you can lay it at mothers door. Mothers regularly use kids as weapons because they are bitter that the dad has left them etc. I've searched for years to find and keep in touch with my daughter. When people send me nasty karma and messages it just proves how small minded they are. You could post in a forum that the pope likes god and some idiot would argue the point. Maybe I did make mistakes in the past but does that mean that I should be shot at dawn? Why can't people let this older, much wiser man make some amends for not being there for his daughter?

Sometimes it takes a long time to realise that mistakes were made......and no man is lessened by admitting that he made mistakes.
Your daughter will make up her own mind about you and your motives...as she sees them....you just have to trust that her decisions will be the right ones for both of you.
It may not be until she has children herself that she really understand the complexities of marriage and children and the things that can, and do go wrong....with often very painful consequences.
I wish both of you good luck in trying to mend and renew relationships.

piltymon · 13-06-2007, 11:21

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Originally Posted by blazey

I should probaby speak up here. At the end of the day, I think the court was quite capable of making the right decision with the scenario and I think although the decision wasn't what anyone wanted, I dont think its fair to lay the blame on the other person.
My mum did very well for me without a dad and there isnt anything in the world to blame her for, especially not a courts decision!

I think everyone deserves a chance to prove themselves but there isnt need to give them repeated chances. My mum let the decision fall into someone elses hands and they chose what they thought was right, so she left it at that. At least I didnt have to go through it all when I can remember it properly, because I dont want to know every single bad detail.
I'd rather just make up my own mind. I'm not a little baby now, im 18 years old and I think i'm now capable of making my own mind up.

She could have at least given me the chance to see you in a contact center. It would have been a safe environment with visits closely watched by professionals. Instead she went for the jugular!

blazey · 13-06-2007, 11:24

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Originally Posted by piltymon

She could have at least given me the chance to see you in a contact center. It would have been a safe environment with visits closely watched by professionals. Instead she went for the jugular!

Maybe it was the best for me to not have to be aware of a split family. My mum chose what she thought was best for me and it didnt kill anyone. I dont feel bad about not being able to see you because I did fine without you.
You just have to get over it because its in the past, complaining about it and pointing out possibilities wont change the past anyway so theres no point dwelling on it.

piltymon · 13-06-2007, 11:33

And that folks is the end of it. We'll make history instead of dwelling on it!

Tombraider · 13-06-2007, 12:31

I remember quite a lot of violence in the relationship toward michelles mother from yourself. Maybe that convinced the courts not to allow you access. Better safe than sorrow

mez · 13-06-2007, 12:48

i personally think that dad & daughter should e-mail each other ....you have found each other, now is the time to rebuild a relationship .but please not with others seeing it & adding their twopenneth ........good luck & best wishes to you both ...stay safe be happy .

Margaret Pilkington · 13-06-2007, 12:58

Words of wisdom from wonderful Mez.

piltymon · 13-06-2007, 14:19

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Originally Posted by Tombraider

I remember quite a lot of violence in the relationship toward michelles mother from yourself. Maybe that convinced the courts not to allow you access. Better safe than sorrow

Maybe you should PM me with your thoughts. You remember nothing but what you were told. How sure are you that when you hear one side of a story that you are getting the truth? Give me a percentage!

piltymon · 13-06-2007, 16:21

Who sent this as karma(anonymously like a coward would do)? >>

u have to have bad karma off me for being bad. no more talking about it now.

blazey · 13-06-2007, 16:37

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Originally Posted by piltymon

Who sent this as karma(anonymously like a coward would do)? >>

u have to have bad karma off me for being bad. no more talking about it now.

lol well that was actually me as a joke... thought it was pretty obvious myself and I didnt think to put my name.

Guess im a big cowardly lion

piltymon · 13-06-2007, 16:57

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Originally Posted by blazey

lol well that was actually me as a joke... thought it was pretty obvious myself and I didnt think to put my name.

Guess im a big cowardly lion

At least you were (wo)man enough to own up to it. I'm glad that karma doesn't worry me too much. I'm sure that someone will give me some good. Some people have already (Thanks for that, much appreciated).