School friends

Steph · 21-07-2004, 08:31

Hello, my name is Stephanie and as everyone seems to be asking about their school friends from ages ago, I thought I would see if there were any people who went to the same school I did, when I did.

I went to St. Oswalds from 1988-1995, then I went to Mount Carmel from 1995-1997, then from 1997-2000 I went to Moorhead.

THE CLASS OF THE MILLENIUM!!!

Anymore out there?

AccyStanFan · 21-07-2004, 21:44

isnt exactly long ago is it? what were u at moorhead, a yellow jumper? or an orrible green?

Nadine · 23-07-2004, 22:53

I have got so many replies from people that I went to school with - thanks to everyone. I hopefully will continue to hear from "back home". I think I am finding some solice in this site - it's like I'm speaking with my dad. Crazy eh? It's been six weeks today since his sudden death - I think I am starting to get my feet back on the ground but not quite sure - thanks for all your help guys!!!!! God Bless.

Steph · 23-07-2004, 22:59

I was a yellow jumper. why?

Doug · 23-07-2004, 23:13

Nadine my father died six years ago and I only found out about in five or six weeks back. Yesterday I sat on the end of grave and spoke to my dad for the fifth time in 22 years. All five conversations have been at that grave side.

I tell a lie I have spoken to him at home asking for signs that I’m doing the right thing in my life. I know I will never get an answer but it hasn’t changed me. I’m still a pillock.

I would like to think that since his passing that he has not witnessed the wrongs that I have committed (I’m not Religious) and there’s been some. I’m not proud of what I’ve done with some elements of my life and certainly some things I will never do again.

But within a month I am doing the things that my father did in his life, I am not trying to emulating my father these things have just happened and for once, I feel I have something to look forward too.

I know he’s there, and I know that he hears me me, my beliefs tell me that Nadine and that’s all that matters. I hope that before I meet him again, I can make a man that I never really knew proud of me, not for done for myself, but for what I could and hopefully have done for others.

Nadine · 24-07-2004, 20:48

Thanks Doug - I guess I was fortunate enough to have my dad around all my life. It almost seems that you found out that your dad had died around the time that my dad did die - it was six weeks on Friday (yesterday). It's very, very hard....we have just come home from a soccer tournament with my 15 year old - mom is here for supper - dad was always at these things so every first is going to be difficult. Gotta go right now - my child is getting her hair cut so she is hustling me outta here. Talk to you again.

Mik Dickinson · 25-07-2004, 13:51

A piece of advice:- i know its easy to say and not easy to do.Time to let go.You have all them pics and memories in your head.You will never forget him.Try to let go but never forget.

JohnW · 26-07-2004, 10:52

Doug,

I was very touched by your post above about your father. What a terrible thing to only learn of his death so long after the event. Don't be too hard on yourself about what you have done with your life. We have all done things in the past about which we feel some shame, things we would undo if we could. It's the people who don't feel this that are the real 'pillocks' of the world. Incidentally, don't call yourself that, eventually you can come to believe it to be true when in fact it isn't. I was very lucky and was close to both my parents for all of the time we were here together. I had them both into my fifties and was very lucky indeed in that respect. You obviously have a lot of unsettled issues with your father by what you say above. I sincerely hope you can come to terms with these things and find some peace of mind.

Steph · 28-07-2004, 10:23

Well I agree totally with what JohnW had to say about Doug. Everybody is given freewill and if we were all perfect we wouldn't be human. Almost everyone wants to change something in their life ( i know i do) but it wouldn't be realistic, would it. Don't be hard on yourself. I'm sure you are a good person and definately NOT a pillock. Keep smiling and do what you think is right. Then I'm sure your father would have been proud!

Doug · 28-07-2004, 10:48

Thank you for that folks, I appreciate your comments and at this particular time there more than welcome.

Pillock is a term I use to check myself at times. I tend to rush at things in my personal life without thinking of the consequences of my actions even when those actions are intended to help and support people of who cope less well with their grief or their personal difficulties.

I’m no angle, put then I am not a bad person. I’ve made mistake and errors of judgement like anyone else, but I have also done and or had to do things that aren’t that pleasant. Has Steph has already said, we have free will and we make our choices.

I’m not looking for support or gratitude, I want to try and repay some of my debt by being there for those that need somebody to talk to, our scream at. Regrettably it doesn’t always go well, good intentions an and all that. but that doesn’t mean that I or anyone else should stop being there for those that do benefit from having a friend.

JohnW · 28-07-2004, 11:07

Agreed, and well said. That's just about the best we can do in this mystifying life.

Steph · 12-08-2004, 21:38

Well I hope you know doug that we are all here for you if you ever want to talk or just to shout at someone. I can't imagine what its like to lose a parent but i can offer sympathy. Thats probably not what you want but its there if you do. Theres always people around you, even when you're alone!

Doug · 17-08-2004, 09:59

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Originally Posted by Steph

Well I hope you know doug that we are all here for you if you ever want to talk or just to shout at someone. I can't imagine what its like to lose a parent but i can offer sympathy. Thats probably not what you want but its there if you do. Theres always people around you, even when you're alone!

Hi Steph thanks for your thoughts they are appreciated. When you haven’t seen someone for a long before they die your left with questions that can’t be answered, you just live with it and move on. But you do tend to look back a lot and sometimes you see some of the errors you made in your life, some of these you can change, some you can’t. Probably the worse thing is you still make mistakes and usually it’s those close to you that end up hurt. This is not self pity as someone recently said, but life. We just need to pull our draws up and get on with it.

Talking even to loved ones isn’t always easy and sometime it can have a detrimental effect on friendships, but at the end of the day knowing that there are people out there who are kind and genuine in their thoughts for people gives peace of mind and comfort. For that and your thoughts and the thoughts of those like you should find good reward in this life.

Steph · 18-08-2004, 08:45

Well, I wasn't asking for any kind words or reward from you but its nice to know when your thoughts are taken on board or even just listened to so thank you x

Doug · 18-08-2004, 08:55

Your very Welcome...........