abortions?

[West Ender]

It's a very emotive subject isn't it?

For me, in most cases, it's wrong. When a foetus is healthy I can see little justification in killing it, even in cases of rape. I know it's traumatic for the victim of a rape but it's rather more than traumatic for the innocent baby - and I can't reconcile the difference between a wanted baby and an unwanted foetus, the terminology changes depending on the circumstances, doesn't it?

A young woman I know had to have a termination of her first baby because scans revealed it had not developed a brain. She was devastated but it was the right thing to do because the child could not have survived and to go to full term would only have prolonged the agony.

I know another woman who had a termination because the baby was "inconvenient". I'm sorry to offend some of you but I couldn't see how that was different to murdering a new-born because it's in the way.

My own youngest child was "inconvenient". I had a 12 year old and a 10 year old when I became pregnant with her and I had just gone back to my Civil Service career. At that time, 1975, it was very difficult to be the working mother of a very small child and I really didn't want 3 children. I went through a couple of weeks of despair and I did think about termination, briefly, then I realised that this was as much my child, and my husband's, as the other 2 were and it wasn't just a collection of cells, it was a baby. Well - it's just had its 31st birthday. It's a warm, loving young woman that drives me mad at times but without whom the world would be a poorer place and it's the mother of my beautiful granddaughter.

Incidentally - I was an "accident" too.

[LancYorkYankee]

Hey Mummiboo, my heart truly breaks for you, your husband (Daddyboo) as well as for your Mum and Dad.

For all those who have shared their thoughts, pains, confusions, frustrations, anger, etc., over the issue of abortion, I appreciate your comments and feelings. It such a difficult issue to be either 100% one way or the other eh?

I've lost 4 either nieces or nephews on Cindy's side to abortions. All were a convenient method to dispose of and be done with "a mistake." When Cindy's 16 year old sister became pregnant (for the first time), it was Cindy being 18 who signed the approval form. They felt it best to keep it from the parents. The father of the baby, a good friend of mine, wanted to keep the baby. They were all Catholics which also made the decision hard.

I know the pain and anguish this has cause my very kind wife still haunts her. Her sister on the other hand went on to O.D. on LSD and had a couple more "convenient disposals."

If I may go on . . ., my little sister, in Alabama, 8 and 1/2 months pregnant, "felt" something was wrong a week or 2 before her due date. The doctors told her the baby had died. For some horrendous reason, they were not able to schedule her delivery for a few days later. The anguish of having to carry this little baby, then she had to be induced and go through the "normal" delivery process. Instead of the joy of hearing the baby's first cry, mere silence. They had a nice funeral for Kayla Dawn L., which my older sister and I were able to get down to attend. "Too far" for my parents or brothers to attend but that's a whole other issue eh?

For all you Moms, Sisters, Aunts, I salute your strength in the face of such trials and tribulations as mentioned in this thread.

As for my answer on the abortion issue. I believe life begins at conception. I believe abortions are too laisez-faire for many of these young girls. I believe that abortions for "convenience" cause many emotional problems that are rarely discussed. I believe that aortions after the first trimester should be illegal except for the health of the mother.

Finally . . . yes finally, I believe anyone who has had, or will have, an abortion, should not be judged or condemned but rather loved and comforted. Because in my opinion (with "convenient" abortions) "they know not what they do!"

Brian

[Lolly]

Originally Posted by garinda

I think it should be legal, and that the choice is there for people to decide for themselves. I notedly said people, rather than woman's choice, as I think both parents should have a say in the decision.

It does make me angry when people use terminations as birth control. Anyone can make a mistake, but when you get to above three abortions that is just stupidity.

This is exactly what I think. At the end of the day it is up to the individual (or couple if that may be the case) If it is legal or not, it is always going to happen. I personally think is should be legal for the simple fact that if it wasnt, there would just be butchers doing it illegally.

My thoughts are with you and your family Mummiboo. xxxxxx