Are we close to neighbours

[claytonx]

After a couple have commited suicide after living on just £57 per week were none of there neighbours able to help,? or call for help.Could we see this happening near us and would we do something?

I think yes. What do you think?

[garinda]

I can't clean my oven, without my neighbours breaking my door down to save me.

[Margaret Pilkington]

Yes...well we are anyway.
My husband and I have kept an eye on our elderly neighbours on either side of us.
The old lady who lived above us has now gone into a home, but prior to this we would do shopping for her, my husband did odd jobs...changing light bulbs that kind of thing, and I cooked for her 4 times a week.
The elderly gentleman who lives below us is almost 80, but relatively fit.
we keep an eye out for him.....and I cook Sunday lunch for him and usually he shares a meal with us during the week too.
We just consider this to be a neighbourly thing to do.

I think that what happened to that couple was deplorable. Immigrants can come into this country,having paid nothing at all and they get looked after......this couple were British, in need, and were badly let down by the welfare system that should have been there to protect them.

[garinda]

On a serious note, I still think there is a neighbourliness in this part of the world, even if it isn't quite like it used to be.

I'm lucky. I have great neighbours.

Living in London for a couple of decades made me appreciate this part of Lancashire.

It took me a couple of years down there to get some neighbours just to say hello, until I wore them down.

London's great if your a sexually deviant, serial killing, music loving, party giver, who happens to value your privacy.

Well it was for me.

[garinda]

Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington

Yes...well we are anyway.
My husband and I have kept an eye on our elderly neighbours on either side of us.
The old lady who lived above us has now gone into a home, but prior to this we would do shopping for her, my husband did odd jobs...changing light bulbs that kind of thing, and I cooked for her 4 times a week.
The elderly gentleman who lives below us is almost 80, but relatively fit.
we keep an eye out for him.....and I cook Sunday lunch for him and usually he shares a meal with us during the week too.
We just consider this to be a neighbourly thing to do.

I think that what happened to that couple was deplorable. Immigrants can come into this country,having paid nothing at all and they get looked after......this couple were British, in need, and were badly let down by the welfare system that should have been there to protect them.

I've been flippant, but agree, this recent event is a heart-breaking tragedy.

Yup, also agree. Where was the helping hand they needed? Which we have to now offer every Noddy who arrives off the ferry at Dover, or risk being fined millions, and millions of pounds.

[Michael1954]

I wish I could say I had good neighbours, but I would be lying if I did. I have enough worries looking after my mother without having to deal with their antics.

[garinda]

Originally Posted by Michael1954

I wish I could say I had good neighbours, but I would be lying if I did. I have enough worries looking after my mother without having to deal with their antics.

Genuinely sorry to read that.

Everyone's home should be there sanctuary.

Having bad neighbours is far worse than having neighbours who just keep themselves to themselves.

Has no one been able to help you?

[wallop79]

Just looked up the story, how awful what's happened to them, but there's always 2 sides to a story & the media are known to exaggerate stories. It mentions 'their friends' in the couple of reports I read, what where their friends doing to try & help I wonder. I hope my comments don't come across harsh as I think no-one should live this way in this day & age. As for being neighbourly I think I am supplied & fitted some sockets free of charge for a young lady with a baby across the road, & pass on my little boys clothes to her. Have lent neighbours items, and looked after another's cats on many occasions. Also when I spray weedkiller at the small 'garden' at the front of my house, I do the neighbours too.

[Mancie]

Very sad and scary but a sign of the times...the Government and the media tell us that those on any benifit are living the life of riley and are to blame for everything..and some people on here believe it to be...how can this British couple be left to live on £57 a week?

Poor UK couple Mark & Helen Mullins commit suicide, live off £57.50 a week - What's On Sanya

"A spokesman for the Department for Work and Pensions said: 'The couple in question had been receiving weekly benefits from the department since February 2010 - these included money for disability and caring responsibilities as well as out of work support."...so much for "support" from this destructive Government....R.I.P

[garinda]

Originally Posted by Mancie

Very sad and scary but a sign of the times...the Government and the media tell us that those on any benifit are living the life of riley and are to blame for everything..and some people on here believe it to be...how can this British couple be left to live on £57 a week?

Poor UK couple Mark & Helen Mullins commit suicide, live off £57.50 a week - What's On Sanya

"A spokesman for the Department for Work and Pensions said: 'The couple in question had been receiving weekly benefits from the department since February 2010 - these included money for disability and caring responsibilities as well as out of work support."...so much for "support" from this destructive Government....R.I.P

Crass.

To try and spin some party political advantage out of this tragedy.

Similarly heartbreaking incidents to this happened before May 2010, don't you know?

Or don't they count, if we had a Labour government at the time?

[cashman]

used to be n owd fella next door to us, we used to keep n eye on him,his daughter used to come n do all his shopping which is a good thing to me, he was deafer n me n used to watch telly at night full volume,which was a drag cos paris goes to bed early, but earplugs cured that,telly always went off around 11-30, one night was still blasting away at 1-00, despite us ringing him n knocking etc, so we called police fearing the worst, they came n came through our house to gain acess round the back, sadly they knocked on our front door about 15 mins later,to tell us he had croaked, so if yeh got owd uns next or around yeh, please keep n eye on em.

[Eric]

Sad story ... fortunately, I have great neighbours.

[Michael1954]

Originally Posted by garinda

Genuinely sorry to read that.

Everyone's home should be there sanctuary.

Having bad neighbours is far worse than having neighbours who just keep themselves to themselves.

Has no one been able to help you?

I have just PMd you but I will also post here. We had good neighbours until this lot moved in 10 years ago. A number of things have happened over the last few years which I might expand on at a later date. We just want to get on with our lives and mind our own business. It just goes to show the impact it can have when relations with neighbours breaks down. Anyway, thanks for your post. I really appreciate it. Oh, and I would like to apologise for my post in the boredom thread. I was only joking, but in black and white I don't think it came out right. (Joke telling was never my forte!) I always find your posts lively and interesting.

[Mancie]

Originally Posted by garinda

Crass.

To try and spin some party political advantage out of this tragedy.

Similarly heartbreaking incidents to this happened before May 2010, don't you know?

Or don't they count, if we had a Labour government at the time?

What party spin?... iI don't know but maybe similar tragedies did happen pre 2010 but does that mean it's ok now?.. can anyone doubt that those on any benifits have not been targeted as "scroungers" by this government?... I'm saying that it's easy for the media to report the scroungers but not to quick for them to report on the millions living in the economic misery this government are creating... and this poor couple are only the tip of the iceberg.

[Restless]

Its a wonder how two people can fall into so much despair that they both commit suicide together. The conversations they must of had together leading up to the decision to do it. Very sad indeed.

Why the small amount? Only other year or so there was a story in paper this family had 10 kids, they both on benefits, practically a mansion to live in and 95K A year(they were white before anybody plays the race card). So how can something like this happen?