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jambutty · 01-01-2008, 17:52

I am not familiar with the girl’s history other than what I read in the opening post of this thread. And that was that she was being chucked out onto the street.

In my view she needed practical help NOW to tide her over for a day or two. School in these circumstances is irrelevant and even if it were relevant Darwen is not too far away.

You lot are just making selfish excuses why you haven’t made a practical offer of help.

Well I’m a “can do” person and obstacles are in place to be overcome.

My condemnation was totally justified and if you want unfair, how about being chucked out onto the street as unfair?

WillowTheWhisp · 01-01-2008, 17:58

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Originally Posted by jambutty

School in these circumstances is irrelevant and even if it were relevant Darwen is not too far away.

It's a darn site further away than Fern Gore end of Accy but she specifically asked us if we knew anywhere IN THE SANDY LANE AREA and the reason SHE gave was the one about the school.

derekgas · 01-01-2008, 18:11

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Originally Posted by jambutty

I am not familiar with the girl’s history other than what I read in the opening post of this thread. And that was that she was being chucked out onto the street.

In my view she needed practical help NOW to tide her over for a day or two. School in these circumstances is irrelevant and even if it were relevant Darwen is not too far away.

You lot are just making selfish excuses why you haven’t made a practical offer of help.
Well I’m a “can do” person and obstacles are in place to be overcome.

My condemnation was totally justified and if you want unfair, how about being chucked out onto the street as unfair?

Save for saying that emma and her little boy will be ok, I will not dignify you're stubborn stupidity with another answer on this subject.

blazey · 01-01-2008, 18:43

I don't think its wrong that people haven't offered rooms in their houses, at the end of the day she is a stranger to most, and you dont just let strangers into you house regardless of if you have children. You wouldn't offer someone homeless on the street a room in your house would you, if you just happened to walk by them?

I like Emma, but I lost sympathy last night when she came into the chat room last night saying she'd been out and she'd had a hangover the day before. If the situation is so bad, how do you find time to go out and drink? Surely you'd be focussing 100% on finding somewhere new to live, and if you go to a shelter they give you a space straight away or ring around the other shelters to find space for you. She'll also be top priority on the housing list as she'll class as being homeless with a child, and that goes straight to the top along with women who have been made homeless whilst they're pregnant.

Hate to be judgemental of someone I get along with and enjoy talking to on the forum, but you need to get your priorities sorted for your little boys sake.

Margaret Pilkington · 01-01-2008, 19:14

sometimes people who have problems in their lives will drink to try to obliterate them......now i'm not saying that that is the right way to go about things, but then no-one is perfect......and who are we to judge.

Stanleymad · 01-01-2008, 19:15

A poor young lady is having a rubbish new year as it is without having her thread turn into some psychological battle of wits blazey, whatever she said in confidence to people without posting it herself on forum is breaching that confidence which also isn't very nice thing to do either, whatever u think personally of what u know or dont know it shouldnt be up for discussion about the ins & outs of her personal life certainly while she isnt here to defend herself, apart from the bit she has posted about requiring help of a hostel/homeless unit help & advice bit, that is what was required & hope she has gained the help & support she needs & that some people on here keep in touch with her to make sure she's ok.

MargaretR · 01-01-2008, 19:17

I don't recommend taking a stranger in - I once did just that.
My then partner asked if we could take in a young chap he knew from snooker playing in our local W M club, for a short time until he found a flat or bedsit.
I agreed - he arrived with a carrier bag of dirty washing.

He moved into our spare room and ate with us. I told him that we did not require payment for the few days he would be with us, but since he said he was an unemployed painter and decorator, he could strip the wallpaper in his room so that it would be ready for redecoration after he left.

During the first day I gave him the Yellow pages and the phone to ring around local landlords. He didn't seem capable of doing that. So I began to search for him and arranged appointments for him to view bedsits and drove him to view them. The 1st one he said was too dirty. The second one 'doesn't have a washing machine, where would I do my washing?' This statement, and his odd behaviour generally aroused my suspicions. My enquiries revealed that he was on long term sick with schizophrenia and his parents lived locally.
He sat all day staring at the Tv or a blank wall and never did strip the bedroom walls.

On the evening of the 5th day I told him that he would have to leave and that I would send him to his parents address in a taxi the next morning. He meekly accepted it --- meekness, helplessness (symptoms)--I felt a cad but my knowledge of schizophrenia meant that I did not feel safe with him in my home.

I stayed awake all night that night sitting with a kitchen knife ready in case he took a turn.
I sometimes see him around locally and he looks healthy- thankfully

garinda · 01-01-2008, 19:31

I'm afraid I can only offer sympathy and encouragement Emma, but I hope you are soon rehomed, somewhere safe and warm.

As for lack of practical help, personally I'd rather sleep in a shop doorway, than with a sanctimonious pensioner in Darwen.

emamum · 01-01-2008, 19:44

hi im at a friends for tonight,will be back in accy tomorrow since i couldnt find anywhere today

Blazey... i was drinking when he split up with me,thats why i was hungover...
thanx to everyone

garinda · 01-01-2008, 19:45

Glad you're safe and warm tonight.

Good luck for a better 2008. x

Bonnyboy · 01-01-2008, 19:55

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Originally Posted by emamum23

hi im at a friends for tonight,will be back in accy tomorrow since i couldnt find anywhere today

Main thing is that you and the lad are safe and sound. Good luck with your future

emamum · 01-01-2008, 19:56

the plan is to go to the police station and not leave till i have somewhere to go....thats what maudy relief told me to do....

emamum · 01-01-2008, 19:58

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Originally Posted by blazey

doesn't make me feel bad about what I said, you still went out last night and in the circumstances, as you describe them, I wouldn't have thought it a top priority when you where in need of finding somewhere to live!

last night i was told i could stay until i found somewhere, he changed his mind today... obv if i had know i would have started looking properly!