co-habiting couples - Page 3

garinda · 01-08-2007, 22:51

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Originally Posted by shakermaker

Marriage is a religious bond

It isn't if you are one of the hundreds of thousands of people who get married in register office every year.

Ianto.W. · 02-08-2007, 11:14

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Originally Posted by carpon

From one who has been stung by this co-habitting situation it's a definate NO! from me.My ex-partner contributed nothing towards our home and now has the audacity to expect half of something she paid nothing towards!! She was the one who was unfaithfull,she was the one who left.I'm currently in the legal wrangling stage and it is a minefield!! I think the laws concerning Co-habitting should be clarified (regarding financial rites in the event of the relationship breaking down) especially where Children are involved,with financial circumstances been taken into account(i.e. WHO contributed What??) Fortunately there where no children as a result of my relationship with my ex. ,as sadly it's the kids who suffer when any marraige or relationship breaks down.

Tough situation, carpon there are no winners when the lawyers get their noses in the trough, they call it the 'law of diminishing returns', in short the legal system gets the lot.
My advice to anyone in that situation is promise them the earth and deliver nothing, if ever keep your head in the sand made any sense in a marriage/partnership split situation it does. Stall them put sick notes in, get shut of what you can and don't turn up at court. Play the same game as the solicitor, he will soon chuck his hand in when the cash stops comming.
Anyone requiring advice off an expert, free of charge, I have afternoon sessions in the Brook's Club every afternoon, 3.30-7.00.

Lilly · 02-08-2007, 14:44

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Originally Posted by shakermaker

Marriage is a religious bond, not just a legal contract. People should enter into it because they believe in the concept of marriage, not because they want legal benefits - and it certainly isn't a higher sense of commitment than cohabitation.
Anne said it perfectly:

No she didn't

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Originally Posted by West Ender

Anne, why should a wedding cost a ridiculous amount? My son married 8 years ago, in a Registry Office, a short but pleasant ceremony with just a few guests. They had been living together for 13 years but decided to make it "permanent". He wore his nice suit, my daughter-in-law bought a dress she's worn loads of times since, and we had a meal at a local hotel - we all paid for our own. The wedding cost very little but they are as much married as anyone else. There's no more commitment in wearing a white dress and a veil and having a huge party, that's just a display.

I said before, it's the choice of the individuals whether to marry or not but it's a question of legality. When you consider that same-sex couples have fought for, and got, the right to have a legal contract drawn up to give them "married" rights why should those who won't legally commit themselves have those rights by default? Call it marriage or what ever you like, no contract - no rights.

West Ender's got it spot on