Empty Nest Syndrome?

Caz · 20-09-2008, 23:03

Well, it's finally happening!

My youngest 2 boys, (and their friend who has lived with us for 18 months) have managed to get a place to live and the means to pay the deposit (no thanks to student finance) near Uni, and are moving out next Saturday.
Had my first child out of 6 at 18, and now I'm saying goodbye at 55 to the last 2!

I love them to bits, I'm so proud of them,

and I know I will miss them, although I will probably be making regular trips down there with goodies, lol.

But for the first time in 36 years I will have no youngsters to cater for. In some ways I am quite looking forward to making time for myself and my partner. Having space to do what we want, when we want. Does that sound selfish?

How have others in the same situation felt about it?

pipinfort · 20-09-2008, 23:08

I wish i could relate to this....we have a full nest at the moment......!!!!!!

cherokee · 20-09-2008, 23:18

My nest is full too at the moment but Iknow its only a matter of lets say a couple of years now when I will be feeling just like you .
I love the traffic going through the house and I will miss it so much when it goes altogether but on the other hand I will enjoy the peace.
Im so used to having bodies walking around or sprawled out on the sofa, music playing loudly upstairs etc. wont quite be the same when its no more.

Although on a more positive note the two that hae already flown the nest are always popping back on a regular basis, so it may not be as quiet as first thought

blazey · 20-09-2008, 23:21

My mum always complains when I come home during the holidays with all my mess, but I know she misses me really

I go back to uni next weekend and I will feel sad about going back to uni and living with a new bunch of complete strangers. Has to be done though.

MargaretR · 20-09-2008, 23:22

I was so weary of coming home from work to find a house full of hippies, that I bought him a place of his own nearby and furnished it -he was 19 - I taught him how to cook first

(I sold a large terraced and bought 2 small ones)

Caz · 20-09-2008, 23:26

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Originally Posted by blazey

My mum always complains when I come home during the holidays with all my mess, but I know she misses me really

I go back to uni next weekend and I will feel sad about going back to uni and living with a new bunch of complete strangers. Has to be done though.

Don't see what this has to do with what I posted?

I was interested in what other people in my situation had to say about it.

blazey · 20-09-2008, 23:26

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Originally Posted by MargaretR

I was so weary of coming home from work to find a house full of hippies, that I bought him a place of his own nearby and furnished it -he was 19 - I taught him how to cook first

How did that work out?

I am really critical of my friend who's parents are like that with him because he doesn't even do his own finances and even studying law was decided by his father. I don't think I would like things to be handed to me by my parents, I would feel like I hadn't earned it and not appreciate it fully.

Caz · 20-09-2008, 23:29

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Originally Posted by MargaretR

I was so weary of coming home from work to find a house full of hippies, that I bought him a place of his own nearby and furnished it -he was 19 - I taught him how to cook first

(I sold a large terraced and bought 2 small ones)

Lol Margaret!

Will not only be the lads that disappear, but their girlfriends as well! and the mates.. regular sleep overs, messy kitchen...mmm. will be nice to be tidy lol.

BERNADETTE · 20-09-2008, 23:34

If it anything like my house you will have the grandchildren next so peace and quiet you never seem to get

Caz · 20-09-2008, 23:35

Already got the grand kids Bernie, but as they say, you can give them back to the parents.

MargaretR · 20-09-2008, 23:38

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Originally Posted by blazey

How did that work out?

I am really critical of my friend who's parents are like that with him because he doesn't even do his own finances and even studying law was decided by his father. I don't think I would like things to be handed to me by my parents, I would feel like I hadn't earned it and not appreciate it fully.

I discussed the prospect with him first
......and charged him rent

When he eventually needed to move ( 5yrs,marriage and 2 children later)
it was sold and provided his deposit on the 1st rung of the housing ladder.
I have only the one child - couldn't have done it twice

cashman · 20-09-2008, 23:39

all i can say cazzer is me late wife n me loved em to bits, but when the last un left, we bought a bungalow, so they couldn't move back.

Caz · 20-09-2008, 23:43

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Originally Posted by cashman

all i can say cazzer is me late wife n me loved em to bits, but when the last un left, we bought a bungalow, so they couldn't move back.

Nice one cashy

We're actually looking to move now, to a smaller house, but we'll still have more space.

And we have z beds if they come home for a visit.

cashman · 20-09-2008, 23:49

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Originally Posted by cazzer

Nice one cashy

We're actually looking to move now, to a smaller house, but we'll still have more space.

And we have z beds if they come home for a visit.

yeh that was great,until we moved to spain n got a 1 bedroom job, then we saw more of em in the 1st 12 months we were there than in the last 3 years,

n they had to sleep on a bloody camp bed then,but were never away.

BERNADETTE · 21-09-2008, 00:00

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Originally Posted by cazzer

Already got the grand kids Bernie, but as they say, you can give them back to the parents.

Bet you wouldn't be without them, know I love having mine to sleep