Explaining bereavement to kids - Page 2

derekgas · 05-02-2009, 20:05

It is nice that they remember Bernie, as said before, kids are good at dealing with these issues than we think, and as the hurt subsides, only the good memories are left!

BERNADETTE · 05-02-2009, 20:09

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Originally Posted by derekgas

It is nice that they remember Bernie, as said before, kids are good at dealing with these issues than we think, and as the hurt subsides, only the good memories are left!

Yes it is lovely when it just crops up like it did with Kean, he was only just turned three when Ian died so nice to know the child has such happy memories of time spent with his grandad. I'm sure your young ones will be the same and that will bring Yvonne comfort.

ChrisK · 05-02-2009, 20:16

[quote=Gayle;676224]I've had to explain death quite a lot recently to my two and stuck to the plain and simple approach.
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My Grandad and Uncle both passed away with 8 days of each other. Madz took it quite badly cos she really loved her Great Grandad but Zack seemed less bothered by it. Not the he didnt love his grandad but just because I dont think he quite grasps the fact that he'll never see him again.

katex · 05-02-2009, 22:41

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Originally Posted by derekgas

It is nice that they remember Bernie, as said before, kids are good at dealing with these issues than we think, and as the hurt subsides, only the good memories are left!

Most children are only frightened and bewildered by the loss of a relative when it affects their future security ... so just saying something lovely is probably all that is needed.

Sorry about your loss .. x

shillelagh · 05-02-2009, 22:49

When my dad died which was a long time ago - its 23 years next week we said theres another star in the sky tonight and thats grandad looking down and watching over you while you sleep ... so when you go to bed dont forget to say night night.

sorry for your loss ..

flashy · 06-02-2009, 10:19

sorry to hear about your loss Derek

my nieces know that their grandma (my mum) died a long time ago and i say to them 'Grandma is up in the sky, playing with the angels'

derekgas · 06-02-2009, 19:21

People have some good ideas on this, and they always seem to be pointing in the direction of going skywards.. heaven, angels, stars etc.

katex · 06-02-2009, 19:28

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Originally Posted by derekgas

People have some good ideas on this, and they always seem to be pointing in the direction of going skywards.. heaven, angels, stars etc.

Because children can see the pretty sights on a clear night Derekgas and relate to it.

Could get more imaginative of course, and do a journey to the centre of the Earth with warmth, keeping the world on track around the sun, pushing up the flowers for us to enjoy, etc., possiblities are endless, however, association is usually with Hades.

Margaret Pilkington · 06-02-2009, 20:05

When my brother in law died....all the grandchildren wrote messages to him and attached them to helium balloons and they were released at the moment his casket was being lowered into the ground.....I thought that was a lovely touch.

katex · 07-02-2009, 00:16

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Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington

When my brother in law died....all the grandchildren wrote messages to him and attached them to helium balloons and they were released at the moment his casket was being lowered into the ground.....I thought that was a lovely touch.

Eeew yes, Margeret .. 'cept the environmental brigade are onto this as to killing wildlife.... shame .. 'cause is a lovely gesture, like that.

Margaret Pilkington · 07-02-2009, 12:08

Katex, it was quite a few years ago now.......maybe 12 years ago....so there wasn't the same hoo ha then about environmental issues.......there are other ways to do something similar without it causing too much environmetal havoc......it just seemed very thoughtful at the time.......and it took the childrens thoughts away from the fact that their Grandpa was being put into the ground.

SPUGGIE J · 07-02-2009, 17:24

Thought long and hard on this and think Gayles answer is the easiest way to do it.