Giving Birth is agony myth!

[shillelagh]

Ive never had kids so i dont what its like so you cant ask me!

[Neil]

Originally Posted by [email protected]

Willow - I hope this doesn't upset you

Then don't suggest it.

[MargaretR]

very sorry Willow - I had an early miscarriage but didn't realise it till years later

[panther]

ive had two kids and not yet experienced labour, i had to have c-cection for both, and believe me its bloody agony, and no it was not because i was too posh to push, like some soft sods!! it was because i developed pre-eclampsia, so they had to get em out, BUT i dont regret a single moment, i got two beautiful kids from it

[SPUGGIE J]

On the myth of childbirth pain what about partners that are supposed to "empethise" and feel it all themselves is this myth or real?

[panther]

well he didnt complain when i was!!

[grego]

Its a myth Spuggie, I'm not saying its pleasant for the partners seeing their wife/partner in pain but there's no way they feel it.

[lindsay ormerod]

I had to have a c section because my daughter was breach and too big to use the normal exit ! No complaints about the op;I was wide awake and back on the ward with my baby 40 mins later. Plenty of morphine for the next few hours and then up for a shower the following day ! My (now ex) husband was there throughout although a bit green round the gills when he peeped over the curtain to see what was happening down the business end! I would love another,I really enjoyed pregnancy and hope there is still time for me !

[panther]

oh god i had a terrible time through mine, im afraid, if fella could have kids i probably would have had 3 more
then again if man could give birth we all be extinct!!!

[SPUGGIE J]

Originally Posted by grego

Its a myth Spuggie, I'm not saying its pleasant for the partners seeing their wife/partner in pain but there's no way they feel it.

Thank heavens for that I thought I was abnormal.

[West Ender]

My husband was there for the birth of our third, and last, child. Later that evening he looked into my eyes and said, "D'you know what I was thinking as she was being born?" I said, "No", expecting something profound and deeply moving. He said, "I was thinking I'd never seen anyone's face go the colour yours was, before."

[harwood red]

Oh it was definately painful for my (now ex) husband, he didn't tell me till later but through out one of my labours I was gripped on to his chest and he had gouged nail marks...few days later he complained of a bruised nipple...wait for it............













so I pulled mine out and said well look at these, do you want to try breast feeding then????

[panther]

can imagine his face ...lol

[MUMMIBOO]

I will tell you men how it feels right first bend a finger round each corner of your mouth and pull untill your lips split and bleed and then just pull for about another 10 mins then burn them with a lighter that comes as close to the pain as you gonna get!!

[lettie]

Everybody has different pain thresholds and some women deal very well with the pain of childbirth and have minimal or no pain relief. Mother nature causes you to forget how bad the pain actually was, although women always remember that it hurt, but tend to forget just how much. Pain is a personal thing and is difficult to describe to somebody else.

We are very lucky in the UK because we have gas, opiates and epidurals to help us to cope with the pain. Some women also have very high expectations of childbirth and I know that it may sound daft but these women tend to believe that they won't have much pain. It comes as a real shock to them when they can be having pains for several days only to be told that they are not in labour and their bodies are just preparing.. Sometimes these women may have 2 or 3 hospital admissions before the 'real thing starts.'

On the whole, UK women should think themselves lucky that we do have access to pain relief in labour, should we want or need it. Many millions of women in developing countries are not so lucky, no pain relief, no midwife, no doctors and no hospitals, frequent stillbirths and infant deaths, maternal deaths.

Pain in childbirth is not a myth but very real, coping with that pain depends on a woman's pain threshold, expectations, attitude and support. Midwives tend to find that the women who have never had a baby before, say they want no drugs just alternative therapies, and are very rigid about what they will and won't have, tend to have every form of pain relief going once they go into labour. Women with the 'I'll take it as it comes' attitude tend to need less pain relief and be more relaxed.