Is Chivalry Dead - Page 4

katex · 18-09-2008, 22:37

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Originally Posted by AccyLass27

See... thats the thing with "chivalry"I would think it cheeky... if I was male... which... I'm not

I would think it cheeky... if you were stood there waiting
Expecting me to come and open it

So thats when it aint chivalry anymore... it's expected

I think it impolite not to wait for your escort to catch up whilst in corridors of offices that are not yours. You need an invitation to carry on to the next stage if you understand what I mean.

AccyLass · 18-09-2008, 22:42

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Originally Posted by katex

I think it impolite not to wait for your escort to catch up whilst in corridors of offices that are not yours. You need an invitation to carry on to the next stage if you understand what I mean.

Oh yeah I didn't mean to walk through and ignore the person taking you! lol

Of course that would be ignorant, but nothing to stop you standing there and opening the door for them

Royboy39 · 18-09-2008, 22:44

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Originally Posted by katex

I think it impolite not to wait for your escort to catch up whilst in corridors of offices that are not yours. You need an invitation to carry on to the next stage if you understand what I mean.

In my younger days I would invite the fairer sex to climb stairs first and I would follow behind......A quick glance would not go amiss........Now I am Knackered and my escort would have to help me up the stairs.

AccyLass · 18-09-2008, 22:46

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Originally Posted by Royboy39

In my younger days I would invite the fairer sex to climb stairs first and I would follow behind......A quick glance would not go amiss........Now I am Knackered and my escort would have to help me up the stairs.

"Chivalry" had to have bonuses lol

Royboy39 · 18-09-2008, 22:49

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Originally Posted by AccyLass27

"Chivalry" had to have bonuses lol

Been there...done it....Now't better than a good looking woman even at my age.....and I've got one.

AccyLass · 18-09-2008, 22:50

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Originally Posted by Royboy39

Been there...done it....Now't better than a good looking woman even at my age.....and I've got one.

So not only does it have bonuses, but it pays off too

Hope it doesn't wear off

shillelagh · 18-09-2008, 22:54

Spuggie is very chivalrous - and sometimes it doesnt half bug me and i tell him off.... like im used to walking along - he has to walk on the outside - just in case a car goes through a puddle and splashes me - it has to splash him instead - but he also likes to hold my hand - but i like to keep my right hand free - now if we are walking on the right hand side of the road - its ok he grabs my left hand - but if we are on the left hand side - he grabs my right hand ...........

Also chivalry is not dead - dont know how many times ive had the door held open for me and i always say thank you and hold it open for the next one through as well. If im at the bus stop - i always let the older generation on first. I always say thanks - my mum told me that to say please and thank you doesnt cost nothing. I get off the bus and say thanks to the bus driver.

katex · 18-09-2008, 22:56

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Originally Posted by AccyLass27

Oh yeah I didn't mean to walk through and ignore the person taking you! lol

Of course that would be ignorant, but nothing to stop you standing there and opening the door for them

Well, like I said .. the fact that he opened the first door pleased him to do so, and probably would be embarassed if you opened the second door for him particularly, as so often happens, colleagues of your host are on the other side of the door. I wouldn't feel cheeky, just acknowledging respect for his manners.

I have shown many women into offices that I have worked in, and would always open the doors for them .. not just a man/woman thing in business situations, just a welcoming invitation to proceed.

jaysay · 19-09-2008, 09:46

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Originally Posted by Royboy39

In my younger days I would invite the fairer sex to climb stairs first and I would follow behind......A quick glance would not go amiss........Now I am Knackered and my escort would have to help me up the stairs.

I don't even do stairs these days Roy

jambutty · 19-09-2008, 12:49

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Originally Posted by Royboy39

In my younger days I would invite the fairer sex to climb stairs first and I would follow behind......A quick glance would not go amiss........Now I am Knackered and my escort would have to help me up the stairs.

A real gentleman wouldn’t follow a lady up the stairs. He would either walk alongside or in front.

Similarly a real gentleman would lead down the stairs so that if she stumbles he would be there to catch her.

emamum · 19-09-2008, 12:59

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Originally Posted by jambutty

A real gentleman wouldn’t follow a lady up the stairs. He would either walk alongside or in front.

Similarly a real gentleman would lead down the stairs so that if she stumbles he would be there to catch her.

not much fun if she's a heifer!

jaysay · 19-09-2008, 16:16

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Originally Posted by emamum23

not much fun if she's a heifer!

What you trying t say ema, let the fat lass go first

Royboy39 · 19-09-2008, 16:37

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Originally Posted by jambutty

A real gentleman wouldn’t follow a lady up the stairs. He would either walk alongside or in front.

Similarly a real gentleman would lead down the stairs so that if she stumbles he would be there to catch her.

What would happen if she fell backwards going up?

A real Gentleman would feel a right prat when picking up the bits and bobs.

Caz · 19-09-2008, 17:58

Are we talking chivalry or courtesy?

I think "chivalry" as such, to my mind, is more the domain of the older gentleman these days. I think today it should be more a matter of courtesy. Not just to us ladies, but to all fellow human beings. I certainly don't expect, even as a female of "a certain age" to have certain niceties bestowed on me just because I am such, but for it to be a matter of decent manners to one another. In any case other things more important than gender should be a priority, such as age or infirmity.

LancYorkYankee · 19-09-2008, 18:40

I appreciate the thoughts on saying "please and thankyou." Both friends and family mock me a bit for tending to say please somewhat too much.

It does kinda bother me when you hold the door for someone and they pass through without saying thankyou. I don't think I've ever had this happen with the older generation.

When I was in England, I was pretty surprised (not overly offended because I thought it might nbe cultural), when most Hindu people rarely said thank you. Over here I only notice that with some younger Black women.

Anyone else notice this type of behavior on a cultural basis?

Brian