is it selfish .....

shillelagh · 18-02-2009, 23:42

.... to have more than 2 children?

BBC NEWS | Magazine | Is it selfish to have more than two children?

This bloke says it is due to the environment .......

i dont have any kids ... so i cant say yay or nay... but surely its the parents choice if they have more than 2 kids as long as they can afford them and not depend on the state for the benefits im not bothered... the kids are our future .... theyre the ones who will be running our country, businesses, schools one day ...

Polly_45 · 18-02-2009, 23:49

Well i was only blessed with one

if circumstances had been different no doubt i would of had at least 1 more.in my opinion its up to the individual and their circumstances

cashman · 18-02-2009, 23:50

my personal view is ya have as many as ya can afford n manage if thats what ya want, providing "YOU" can provide fer em.

cashman · 18-02-2009, 23:52

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Originally Posted by Polly_45

Well i was only blessed with one:

thats one way of lookin at it, i was cursed with 2.

West Ender · 19-02-2009, 00:11

Oh mea culpa, I've had 3! They're all employed now, busily paying tax and NIC to help keep the nation solvent (well, nearly solvent) and, presumably, pay Jonathan Porrit's wages.

MargaretR · 19-02-2009, 00:12

I only had one but he has had three - so does that make it even?

Eric · 19-02-2009, 00:17

I have two ... then I got fixed .... my great grandmother had twelve, all boys ... she must have been one mean mother ... But I don't think the number of kids should be an issue; it's the quality of parenting that is important. I don't think that selfishness comes into it .... from what I hear, you guys have a major problem with women popping out sprogs in order to get more welfare ... now this is not ok, it's not selfish, just lazy and greedy.

shillelagh · 19-02-2009, 00:25

Like i said if they can afford it then ok - but not depend on state benefits ....

It was the environment bit i was getting at though most of all .... ... thing is though does anyone ever think on how the environment is going to be affected when they have kids?

I dont think i would.

Polly your son is a blessing ....

Cashy - how can you say that you were cursed with 2!!!!

cashman · 19-02-2009, 00:38

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Originally Posted by shillelagh

Like i said if they can afford it then ok - but not depend on state benefits ....

It was the environment bit i was getting at though most of all .... ... thing is though does anyone ever think on how the environment is going to be affected when they have kids?

I dont think i would.

Polly your son is a blessing ....

Cashy - how can you say that you were cursed with 2!!!!

quite easily

too much made of the environment, big business worldwide needs to set the example,never will in my lifetime, kids is an easy target.

cherokee · 19-02-2009, 00:57

Well I ve had 4 and would do it all again .
It is down to the individuals imo and like cashy said if they can afford it.
Me and my ex didnt have a lot to offer financialy although we both worked but they never went without.

garinda · 19-02-2009, 01:04

I think it's personal choice, and agree with other comments, that if you have enough love and food to go round, have whatever size family that's right for you.

Talking of busy bodies, concerned more with other's lives, rather than their own, last weekend the Sunday Times published photographs of houses belonging to famous environmental campaigners.

They used a thermal imaging camera to photograph their homes, and found them to be less efficent than the average house.

Get your own homes in order first, and keep your beaks out of other people's business.

steeljack · 19-02-2009, 02:12

don't see anything wrong with a married couple having as many children as they want , when single women start popping out kids that resemble 'tubes of Smarties' then I have questions

accyman · 19-02-2009, 04:16

an ex of mine who chose never to have kids once said its all well giving tax credits here and there but where was her tax credit for not having kids and putting education costs , health costs etc on the government

i think she has a point and if a woman gets to the age where she cant have kids anymore and has had no kids then she should get a refund or a huge rebate of some kind when that time comes

flashy · 19-02-2009, 07:55

1 was more than enough for me, he was planned, i never ever planned to have anymore...so i didnt...i dont care what anyone says, if you dont want kids then you dont have them, if you are not using the right precautions then you obviously want more kids, all this bull when women say 'i had my other kids cos my contraception failed' is utter crap, in 12 years mine has never failed...

if you wish to have a larger family then so be it, at least be honest about it and stop calling your kids 'mistakes' when they arent

ok rant over, think i'll go take my pill now

MargaretR · 19-02-2009, 08:45

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Originally Posted by flashy

all this bull when women say 'i had my other kids cos my contraception failed' is utter crap, in 12 years mine has never failed...

When my 3rd grandchild was born the midwife delivered 'the coil' too