just seen a cracking ad

entwisi · 06-10-2007, 21:11

One of the new Mastercard ones.

"Remember who you REALLY work for!"

I was on a corporate jolly on Wednesday/Thursday with the bosses and having just been reorg'd to another area with a different boss I asked him "Why should I trust you to lead me". he wriggled for 45 mins before I got anything from him. Anyway this weeks email he quoted my Q and gave as I asked for it a sort of CV of what he's achieved etc. what struck me more than anything was one sentence hidden towards the end after a list of all the stuff he'd done at one of the major global Banks.

" I have a 3 and 5 year old daughter who I don't see as I'm seperated from my wife"

at that point I was no longer looking to respect this guy, I pitied him............

he obviously has found out too late just what is really important.

Thanks God I have it clear just who comes first.

grego · 06-10-2007, 21:30

Did he put his career before his family? very sad to lose contact.

cmonstanley · 06-10-2007, 21:36

part of the thatcher ethoes

lets hope society turns round before its toooooooo late

entwisi · 06-10-2007, 21:39

yep, spent many weeks/months chasing success only to find(IMHO) ultimate failure

grego · 06-10-2007, 21:41

Yes I agree with you there, I work to live not live to work.

katex · 06-10-2007, 21:54

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Originally Posted by entwisi

yep, spent many weeks/months chasing success only to find(IMHO) ultimate failure

Well, a man has to work hard to provide for his family entwisi, so very difficult to split the difference sometimes between career and time with family.

I have had to provide singularly for my son since he was 4 years old, so no choice to put a large effort into providing him with the best things in life .. can do both if you truly love your children, not about time always, just the time you have spare .. you spend this with them without guilt.

My son (now 25) was recently singled out to provide a profile in his 'trade magazine'. The closing question was 'What has your career taught you?'

The reply from my son was ' Know when to go home. Although there are occasions when you have to go the extra mile, you can run yourself into the ground with overwork. You earn your salary, so it is important to find time to enjoy it'. Yes, ok, am proud of his wisdom.

entwisi · 06-10-2007, 22:01

agree that its wisdom that tells you this, this is why TBH I no longer respect I pity. He clearly doesn't understand the difference between doing that 'bit extra' and chasing a career. If you saw what he'd done and where ( i.e. globally) you'd see that he clearly went when saying NO would be the right thing to do.

Money doesn't buy happiness, wisdom and common sense has amuch greater chance of giving it

Lilly · 06-10-2007, 22:14

It is very hard to balance a top career with a home life consisting of spouse and children. A lot of people who have top careers are single. As my Grandma used to say....you can't have th' ha'penny and t'cake.

WillowTheWhisp · 06-10-2007, 22:58

Totally agree that priorities are sometimes skewed. To me family is more important than anything and something which cannot be replaced. Time spent with children is most valuable because they grow up so quickly. I just cannot understand those people who have children and then hire nannies etc to look after them so that they can get on with their career and earn more money 'for them' when they rarely ever see them.

Your story reminded me of the Kris Kristofferson song 'Darby's Castle' Ian.

See the ruin on the hill,
Where the smoke is hanging still,
Like an echo of an age long forgotten.
There's a story of a home
Crushed beneath those blackened stones,
And the roof that fell before the beams were rotten.

Cecil Darby loved his wife
And he laboured all his life
To provide her with material possessions.
So he built for her a home
Of the finest wood and stone
But the building soon became his sole obsession.

It took three hundred days for the timbers to be raised
And the silhouette was seen for miles around.
The gables reached as high as an eagle in the sky
But it only took one night to bring it down
When Derby's Castle tumbled to the ground.

Though they shared a common bed
There was precious little said
In the moments that were set aside for sleeping
For his busy dreams were filled
With the rooms he'd yet to build,
And he never heard young Helen Darby weeping.

Then one night he heard a sound,
As he laid his pencil down,
And he traced it to her door and turned the handle.
And the pale light of the moon
Through the window of the room,
Split the shadows where two bodies lay entangled.

Oh, it took three-hundred days, for the timbers to be raised,
And the silhouette was seen for miles around.
The gables reached as high as the eagles in the sky,
But it only took one night to bring it down,
When Darby's castle tumbled to the ground.

grannyclaret · 06-10-2007, 23:34

Quote:

Originally Posted by WillowTheWhisp

Totally agree that priorities are sometimes skewed. To me family is more important than anything and something which cannot be replaced. Time spent with children is most valuable because they grow up so quickly. I just cannot understand those people who have children and then hire nannies etc to look after them so that they can get on with their career and earn more money 'for them' when they rarely ever see them.

Your story reminded me of the Kris Kristofferson song 'Darby's Castle' Ian.

See the ruin on the hill,
Where the smoke is hanging still,
Like an echo of an age long forgotten.
There's a story of a home
Crushed beneath those blackened stones,
And the roof that fell before the beams were rotten.

Cecil Darby loved his wife
And he laboured all his life
To provide her with material possessions.
So he built for her a home
Of the finest wood and stone
But the building soon became his sole obsession.

It took three hundred days for the timbers to be raised
And the silhouette was seen for miles around.
The gables reached as high as an eagle in the sky
But it only took one night to bring it down
When Derby's Castle tumbled to the ground.

Though they shared a common bed
There was precious little said
In the moments that were set aside for sleeping
For his busy dreams were filled
With the rooms he'd yet to build,
And he never heard young Helen Darby weeping.

Then one night he heard a sound,
As he laid his pencil down,
And he traced it to her door and turned the handle.
And the pale light of the moon
Through the window of the room,
Split the shadows where two bodies lay entangled.

Oh, it took three-hundred days, for the timbers to be raised,
And the silhouette was seen for miles around.
The gables reached as high as the eagles in the sky,
But it only took one night to bring it down,
When Darby's castle tumbled to the ground.

I have that song too,but its sung/spoken by Ollie Austin...what a great tale