Memorial tattooist?

Acrylic-bob · 17-11-2007, 17:24

In times gone by, when a person was particularly affected by the death of someone close, the options for expressing grief were fairly limited. The run of the mill expressions were flowers, monuments, or memorial benches. If funds ran to it the bereaved could also endow Universities or religious organisations. The Victorians kept lockets of artfully arranged strands of hair from the dear departed or had mourning jewellery made. but in most cases the grief was something personal and private and most people had sufficient taste not to wear their grief on their sleeves (Queen Victoria notwithstanding) for too long.

In the twenty-first century it seems things have changed, personal grief is now it seems to be used as another springboard for those clamouring to be noticed.

This from the Observer...

Nieceâ€™s tattoo tribute to tragic Dave - News - Accrington Observer

Of course what this gormless creature decides to do with her body is entirely up to her, but I cannot help thinking that there is something creepy and icky about it.

garinda · 17-11-2007, 17:37

Horses for courses.

Tattoos fascinate me, though I'd never have one. They're just too permanent...and I'm just too fickle.

How on earth having this self penned tribute on her back is going to make her grief any easier, is beyond me, but if it does, good luck to her.

It did make me smile when she said just having her late uncle's initals on her neck 'looked a bit bare'.

Though as she gets older, she must face the fact that the last verse will eventually slip below the Plimsoll line.

Margaret Pilkington · 17-11-2007, 17:38

I don't like tattoos of any description. And, this girl may have held genuine affection for her uncle, but I am sure he would not have wanted her to deface her body in such a way.......I'm sure there are other things that would have expressed her feelings far better than this.

garinda · 17-11-2007, 17:47

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Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington

I don't like tattoos of any description. And, this girl may have held genuine affection for her uncle, but I am sure he would not have wanted her to deface her body in such a way.......I'm sure there are other things that would have expressed her feelings far better than this.

Personally I'd have used the money to treat a third world child to have their cataracts removed. The gift of sight, a much more fitting tribute.

West Ender · 17-11-2007, 18:14

I wonder what the poem's like.

Margaret Pilkington · 17-11-2007, 18:18

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Originally Posted by garinda

Personally I'd have used the money to treat a third world child to have their cataracts removed. The gift of sight, a much more fitting tribute.

Yes, that would have been a much better way of having her uncle remembered.

BERNADETTE · 17-11-2007, 18:28

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Originally Posted by West Ender

I wonder what the poem's like.

Here it is.
It's hard to come to terms whan you lose somone you love
Someone so truly amazing you can never see them enough
Although you've gone forever, forever is such a short time
Because we will meet again somewhere down the line

I'll wait for that moment and thank every passing second
Because it means I'll be closer to meeting you in heaven
You enjoyed your life to the fullest and passed doing something you love
We shall all carry on with our lives knowing your watching over us>

West Ender · 17-11-2007, 19:06

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Originally Posted by BERNADETTE

Here it is.
It's hard to come to terms whan you lose somone you love
Someone so truly amazing you can never see them enough
Although you've gone forever, forever is such a short time
Because we will meet again somewhere down the line

I'll wait for that moment and thank every passing second
Because it means I'll be closer to meeting you in heaven
You enjoyed your life to the fullest and passed doing something you love
We shall all carry on with our lives knowing your watching over us>

Erm......right.

The sentiment and the action seem to be a bit excessive for a niece/uncle relationship, or is it just me?

Yolanda25 · 17-11-2007, 19:14

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Originally Posted by West Ender

Erm......right.

The sentiment and the action seem to be a bit excessive for a niece/uncle relationship, or is it just me?

You never know though some people grow up close to a member of the family sometimes

Margaret Pilkington · 17-11-2007, 19:23

I was very close to my father but would never dream of having something dedicated to him tattoed on any part of my anatomy.
I would rather remember him in some other way.

MargaretR · 17-11-2007, 19:36

It's on her back so she can't read it unless she uses a mirror and then it will be wrong way round - can't understand her reasoning

Yolanda25 · 17-11-2007, 19:39

well, i guess is the way she has of grieving, every person is different

Eric · 17-11-2007, 20:31

I don't know if this is right for everyone ... people want to remember loved ones in different ways. I lost a very special dog in May of 2004; and I have her protrait tatooed on my arm with the legend "Best Friend" and her name "Hera." I am very comfortable with this. Now she will always be with me in a physical sense, as well as in memory.

BERNADETTE · 17-11-2007, 20:41

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Originally Posted by West Ender

Erm......right.

The sentiment and the action seem to be a bit excessive for a niece/uncle relationship, or is it just me?

I also think it is to much but who are we to judge?

Margaret Pilkington · 17-11-2007, 20:47

Yes, you are right Bernie, we shouldn't judge.