My Mum - Page 7

panther · 05-11-2008, 19:00

Just read about your loss forceten, Condolences to you and your family.
I know what it feels like to lose a loved one, but cant imagine what it is like to lose a mum.
When my brother died he had Angels (robbie williams) at his funeral, every time that come on it always reminds me of him and i like to think that its a sign that he is watching

and it still does after 7 years.
Time is a great healer, and it will get better..

katex · 05-11-2008, 19:29

I hope sharing this with us Forceten has helped in some way.

Not too good at this, however, personalising .. my mum was 89 when she passed away, and had a 'peaceful death'. She always said "Don't fret when I go .. have had a good life, lovely husband, good children (which is you), what more could I have asked for". Sure your mum would wish to say this to you ... just sorry she had to go through so much at the end ... x

cashman · 05-11-2008, 19:47

sorry to hear about yer loss Forceten, deepest sympathy.

grannyclaret · 06-11-2008, 01:12

keep your chin up forceten,,,,god bless

forceten · 13-11-2008, 23:01

I'm going to see the old nursing home that Mum was in with my sister tomorrow. They still have some of mums possessions, and they have lied to the police amongst others. So my sister and I are going up to get the rest of Mums possessions tomorrow.

I'm not happy right now. But I wont' give up my fight for Mum. She has died now, and still they abuse her!!!

If they don't give the possessions back tomorrow, I will go to the papers, and I will also post an account on here as well, so that nobody else has to go through what we have had to go through.

mez · 14-11-2008, 09:40

oh i really feel for you forceten ...stick to your guns.

jaysay · 14-11-2008, 11:04

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Originally Posted by forceten

I'm going to see the old nursing home that Mum was in with my sister tomorrow. They still have some of mums possessions, and they have lied to the police amongst others. So my sister and I are going up to get the rest of Mums possessions tomorrow.

I'm not happy right now. But I wont' give up my fight for Mum. She has died now, and still they abuse her!!!

If they don't give the possessions back tomorrow, I will go to the papers, and I will also post an account on here as well, so that nobody else has to go through what we have had to go through.

I'd go to the press anyway forceten, and I don't just mean the Telegraph either. I've followed your plight on other web sites apart from this, and If these homes are not shown up for what they are other people will suffer the same as your Mum did, just hope you get satisfaction when you go tomorrow

forceten · 14-11-2008, 22:40

We went to the home today, and low and behold the personal possessions were not there.

We have been told that it is a civil matter, which in a nutshell means that we have to pay upfront £500 before a solicitor will even talk to us. Bearing in mind the owner of the nursning home in question used to be a barristor..........need I say more.

Social services have also told me that they have never ever had such a clear case that they did with my Mum, but they have chosen not to do anything about it. Infact, my Mums social worker has told me that he is disgusted with his department over it.

I've decided now that I am going to go, with my sister to see Jack Straw. The only thing that is holding me back from the papers is the fact that my Mum was a very proud women, who raised thousands upon thousands for charity (£21k) over 20 years ago, and I have to decide in my mind if going to the papers is what she would have wanted.

Mum wasn't herself due to the stroke, but neither did she deserve to be treat the way that she was treat.

Hard decisions to be made, but first I will go and see Jack.

Thanks for all your support

Royboy39 · 14-11-2008, 23:09

This is a digusting situation and I feel for you.
It would be very interesting to know who is pushing the buttons in this very tragic case.
Try Citizens Advice Bureau and see if they can help...They have more clout that people credit them with.

shillelagh · 14-11-2008, 23:46

Go for it forceten.... and also get in touch with greg pope. Ive told you before if you need someone to blast at ..... im always around!!!!

BERNADETTE · 15-11-2008, 00:03

Forceten if I were you I would contact the papers, the fact that your Mum raised all that money for charity speaks volumes about the type of person she was to me. Whoever has taken her personal belongings is showing just how disrespectful they are. Other people need warning about this home and the complete disregard they have for peoples feelings. Hope you get justice for your Mum.

jaysay · 15-11-2008, 10:26

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Originally Posted by shillelagh

Go for it forceten.... and also get in touch with greg pope. Ive told you before if you need someone to blast at ..... im always around!!!!

forceten lives in Blackburn Jen, there is an unwitten rule that MPs don't cross borders, which I think Greg would back up

derekgas · 15-11-2008, 19:54

Do all you can forceten, nobody can say you havnt done so up to now, same old road for you! Good luck.

forceten · 16-11-2008, 23:26

Can I just say here that the money is not an option. It's the principle of the the whole situation.

I would gladly pay the money, but what I am more annoyed about is that social services had such a clear cut case and chose to do nothing about it. That is what I am annoyed about.

I want to save somebody else going through what my sister and I have had to go through, My Mum had us to fight for her, what about the people who have nobody to fight for them?

For social services to say that they are doing nothing when they have had such a clear cut case............what does that tell you? And that is why I am still fighting, and I will fight until I win.

jaysay · 17-11-2008, 10:30

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Originally Posted by forceten

Can I just say here that the money is not an option. It's the principle of the the whole situation.

I would gladly pay the money, but what I am more annoyed about is that social services had such a clear cut case and chose to do nothing about it. That is what I am annoyed about.

I want to save somebody else going through what my sister and I have had to go through, My Mum had us to fight for her, what about the people who have nobody to fight for them?

For social services to say that they are doing nothing when they have had such a clear cut case............what does that tell you? And that is why I am still fighting, and I will fight until I win.

You carry on forceten and I hope you do win, as for social services, well with what has gone on in the last few weeks, makes you wonder what they do do to protect the vulnerable