Prom For Junior School Leavers - Page 2

Ossywarrior · 18-07-2009, 18:22

you use the word no, my kids wont be having hundreds thrown at them for a prom even if i can afford it, parents need to get a spine and not give in to the whining

BERNADETTE · 18-07-2009, 18:24

Well I'm sorry but I put the blame at the schools door for going OTT with these things

katex · 18-07-2009, 18:32

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Originally Posted by BERNADETTE

And what if they can't afford to spend stupid amounts of money but have a child who is upset because they can't go? Just added pressure for parents in these hard times IMHO

Agree totally Bernie ... haven't changed my mind since the last time we discussed. Then was only the 16 year olds, but hey, 11 year olds, totally out of order.

It's ok to say, "well if they want to spend this money then let them" but no youngster wishes to be out of step with the others, most are still in the 'sheep status' at this age (except Blazey .. LOL). Looking at the dresses for the 16 year olds, suspect none have cost less than £100 and will never be worn again. Half of them look a little like pantomime dames anyway in these over the top evening dresses (now I'm in trouble).

Not too bad for the lads .... usually hire an evening suit at a much lower cost.

It's not just another name for a leaving do .. has specked up so to speak. At least when it was just a leaving disco, could wear less formal clothes that you could go out on the town in on a Saturday night ... not like these dresses.

Ossywarrior · 18-07-2009, 18:57

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Originally Posted by BERNADETTE

Well I'm sorry but I put the blame at the schools door for going OTT with these things

so parents blame the schools because they cant say no ?

BERNADETTE · 18-07-2009, 19:05

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Originally Posted by Ossywarrior

so parents blame the schools because they cant say no ?

Kids hate to be different that is a fact of life. Parents are under enough pressure these days without this being added to. It is ok saying what you would or wouldn't do faced with the decision to spend on things like this but in reality it is different. Schools are not helping IMHO

katex · 18-07-2009, 19:06

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Originally Posted by Ossywarrior

so parents blame the schools because they cant say no ?

I blame the schools for putting their pupils in this position to put pressure on their parents .... even if you say 'no' Ossywarrior.

It isn't easy to say no .. hek, what will you have to go through to get the message across? First the asking, then the no's, then the pleading, then the tears, then the tantrums, different views between husband and wife, sulking, and then the feeling of them being an outsider because they can't go, etc., etc., etc. Enormous pressure on all sides.

Ossywarrior · 18-07-2009, 19:24

well my kids can sulk all they want if ive said no, im not intrested in peer pressure, i got nothing when i was a kid and it didnt do me any harm.

flashy · 18-07-2009, 19:41

bet you used to get a lot of ice-creams though Phil

Lilly · 18-07-2009, 20:29

I think it's all getting a bit silly now.

We had a leaving do at Mytton Fold when we left school in 1994, we just wore our best clothes and our parents took us and collected us in the car.
It's all getting out of hand with these limousines and beauty packages........hair, nails, spray tan etc which are bing done for proms these days.

It's bad enough all this for leaving secondary school but to be doing all this for leaving primary school is ridiculous, in my opinion.

Graduation used to mean leaving university and a big fuss was made. That was fine, now we have proms for leaving primary, even 4 year olds 'graduating' from nursery!

What next? A certificate and mortar board from the Royal Blackburn maternity ward for 'graduating' from the womb?

shakermaker · 18-07-2009, 20:54

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Originally Posted by West Ender

When they're 16/18 a prom's not too bad. For 11 year olds it's ridiculous. Let them be children, for goodness sake, instead of encouraging them to behave like little adults.

I agree with West Ender.

We had a céilidh to celebrate the end of our time at primary school. Bags of fun it was.

Seems as if there's a total lack of imagination for this lot.

katex · 18-07-2009, 21:07

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Originally Posted by Ossywarrior

well my kids can sulk all they want if ive said no, im not intrested in peer pressure, i got nothing when i was a kid and it didnt do me any harm.

Still not the point ... putting yer kids in the position where they may be disappointed.

garinda · 18-07-2009, 23:48

Primary schools should be concentrating on educating their children in the seven years they are there, which some fail to do, instead of organising this Americanised Lolitafest when they leave.

Ossywarrior · 19-07-2009, 02:27

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Originally Posted by katex

Still not the point ... putting yer kids in the position where they may be disappointed.

one of lifes lessons learnt early.

i also dont agree with the "everyones a winner" mentality in primary schools either

emamum · 19-07-2009, 09:22

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Originally Posted by Ossywarrior

one of lifes lessons learnt early.

i also dont agree with the "everyones a winner" mentality in primary schools either

you sound like my dad when i was little..... i hated him!!

strange how he spoils his grandchildren tho

jaysay · 19-07-2009, 09:37

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Originally Posted by BERNADETTE

And what if they can't afford to spend stupid amounts of money but have a child who is upset because they can't go? Just added pressure for parents in these hard times IMHO

Totally agree with you there Bernie, peer pressure is bad enough at the best of times, I know how much my Daughter spent when my Granddaughter left school 5 years ago. like most people on here of our age group we made do with a dance, there weren't even disco's in our day