Rant... - Page 2

kathleen_firth · 11-12-2007, 14:34

apparently young mums just want benefits and a council flat.... id love to be back living at home with my mum again

lancsdave · 11-12-2007, 14:40

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Originally Posted by kathleen_firth

apparently young mums just want benefits and a council flat.... id love to be back living at home with my mum again

Council flat is old hat, it's a house they want nowadays

Margaret Pilkington · 11-12-2007, 14:43

all of us are inclined to make generalisations......it has been done in this thread......and it is something that has always happened in one way or another.
All I would say is live your life and disregard what other people think. You cannot control their thoughts, anymore than they can control yours.

kathleen_firth · 11-12-2007, 14:48

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Originally Posted by lancsdave

Council flat is old hat, it's a house they want nowadays

lol ...........................

blazey · 11-12-2007, 15:13

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Originally Posted by kathleen_firth

i am 20 but look about 15 so people always think im a silly teenager who has gotten pregnant and now im going to be a single parent. ............. well there wrong because i was trying for a year before i managed to get pregnant and me and my boyfriend are still together with no intentions of splitting up... why are people so old fashioned with there opinions

It's funny you say that its an old fashioned opinion because I think its quite a new thing. Most people seem to frown upon teenagers getting married and starting families, yet alot of older people I know seemed to have done all that before they were 20.

I dont think there is anything wrong with young parents or single parents, my mum had me when she was young, and now she is a single parent and I think she does a brilliant job (though some on here might suggest that I turned out badly

) , and I'm sure my brother and sister will both turn out well too.

I think the only thing I have a bit of a problem with is older women getting pregnant, but perhaps that isn't right of me, i'm not sure.

WillowTheWhisp · 11-12-2007, 17:16

Whatever other people say only reflects their own ignorance. You can't control their opinions but you can control your reaction to them. Just ignore them.

When my mother was ill she spent some time in a nursing home and two old biddies in the next street once said in a stage whisper as I went past "That's her, put her mother away in a home. Can't be bothered with old folks these days."

blazey · 11-12-2007, 17:22

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Originally Posted by WillowTheWhisp

Whatever other people say only reflects their own ignorance. You can't control their opinions but you can control your reaction to them. Just ignore them.

When my mother was ill she spent some time in a nursing home and two old biddies in the next street once said in a stage whisper as I went past "That's her, put her mother away in a home. Can't be bothered with old folks these days."

Isn't that what nursing homes are for

I think I personally would be hesitant though of nursing homes, perhaps it might be just because my interest is in the health care/medical secter of law, but there are so many cases of the nurses mistreating and even killing the elderly people in their care, there is even a couple currently in the news for it, and its not a rare thing. Its horrible.

WillowTheWhisp · 11-12-2007, 17:31

This wasn't a residential home, this was a sort of recuperating place between hospital and home. The doctor wouldn't release her to come home as he considered she needed 24 hour care but hospitals are for ill people not for recuperating people.

blazey · 11-12-2007, 17:42

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Originally Posted by WillowTheWhisp

This wasn't a residential home, this was a sort of recuperating place between hospital and home. The doctor wouldn't release her to come home as he considered she needed 24 hour care but hospitals are for ill people not for recuperating people.

Carers, minders, anyone with responsibility for looking after people in some way neglect people. It's not even safe to have your own family care for someone who's ill or in need of care at times, and its not just elderly people, its disabled people and children and those with severe illnesses. Its hard to find someone you genuinely can rely on to have that kind of responsibility for your loved ones i think. There are just so many cruel people out there

Margaret Pilkington · 11-12-2007, 18:04

There are thousands of carers out there who do the work for very little money and do not ill treat the people in their care......because a few hit the headlines does not mean that they are all like that. Newspapers and TV programs love to make much out of a minority.
Many carers go above and beyond the call of duty, because they become attached to the people they are caring for.

I worked in Nursing for almost 30 years and never saw anyone ill treat a client/patient...and if I had seen that kind of treatment I would have reported it in an instant.....I have, however seen nurses hit, scratched and bitten by people under the influence of alcohol....but that doesn't mean that all people who drink alcohol will treat nurses in that way

blazey · 11-12-2007, 18:05

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Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington

There are thousands of carers out there who do the work for very little money and do not ill treat the people in their care......because a few hit the headlines does not mean that they are all like that. Newspapers and TV programs love to make much out of a minority.
Many carers go above and beyond the call of duty, because they become attached to the people they are caring for.

I worked in Nursing for almost 30 years and never saw anyone ill treat a client/patient...and if I had seen that kind of treatment I would have reported it in an instant.....I have, however seen nurses hit, scratched and bitten by people under the influence of alcohol....but that doesn't mean that all people who drink alcohol will treat nurses in that way

Obviously they arent all like that, but what i'm saying is that its a horrible world when you have to worry about such possibilities when its meant to be a help to everyone including the person who is being treated there.

Margaret Pilkington · 11-12-2007, 18:10

mentioning the fact that some carers do abuse those in their care, does offend the vast majority of those who do their job diligently and to the best of their ability, and may perpetuate fears in people who are currently in the situation of looking for somewhere to place an elderly or infirm relative.
Although I take your point that it must be considered, it is a sweeping generalisation.

WillowTheWhisp · 11-12-2007, 18:22

There are a lot of good dedicated carers out there who do not neglect those they are looking after.

panther · 11-12-2007, 19:22

theres nowt wrong with single mothers on benefits, they do a good job on their own, probably better than most couples.
I have no problem with them whatsoever.

mallard · 11-12-2007, 20:01

Just look at it this way you have payed your tax,s but there is a lot that has not so don,t let them get you down.