Things that make you go "uh?" - Page 3

garinda · 10-03-2005, 17:40

Pendy the first to have the balls.

We can all be cruel at whatever age. Children seem so much better at it, sometimes for no particular reason.

pendy · 10-03-2005, 17:46

Garinda, I keep telling you, darling - no balls!! Of course children are better at being cruel, even when they don't mean to. They are direct, anyway, and can say the most awful things quite innocently! - but any child who is different in any way (these days that probably means having a stable home and two parents) gets teased and poked fun at. Who remembers calling someone "Specky four-eyes" or "Rabbit teeth" or "Jug ears"?

JohnW · 10-03-2005, 17:52

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Originally Posted by garinda

ls anybody here brave enough to admit to bullying? We can't all have been victims to it, or bystanders.
Are bullies bullied themselves, and they find the power it gives them fills a deep void? Like l mentioned before, l know quite a few people l considered bullies at school, who are now great people, [apperently,] and have children of their own.
l know it's a bit off thread but is sort of related.

Strange thing that. About 15 years ago I was having a drink at the bar of a pub in which I played the drums. This guy walked up to me and tapped me on the shoulder. I turned around and immediately recognised him as a lad I was at school with from being 11 to 13. I smiled and said "hi", holding out my hand for a shake. "Never mind that!" he said and proceeded to tell me how much he hated me at school because I bullied him. I retorted that I never bullied anyone as far as I knew but that, certainly, I'd had my share of fights and maybe he was one of them. He would not hear of it and insisted that I had bullied him. I said perhaps it was mistaken identity, but he gave me my correct name and told me who my main friends were at the school. So I told him we would have to agree to disagree as I certainly did not recall such a thing. At the end of the night he came up to me and shook hands and said he was glad to get it off his chest and I haven't seen him since. I really don't remember doing any such thing. Also, I once had a house which had a faulty dampcourse. The dampcourse had been renovated by drilling and injecting silicone into a course of bricks prior to my buying the house. I knew who had done the job so gave him a call and asked him to come round. When he arrived I made my complaint that we had rising damp and the guy started going on about the fact that the bricks were 100 years old. I didn't see how that could make a difference and I told him so at which point he turned around and walked out of the house. Next day I received a call from his son saying that I had no business threatening his father. I really didn't make any threat. However, maybe a threat was perceived and I suppose that is the important thing. Maybe I come across as threatening when I don't mean to be! Ah well, don't mess with me you lot.

park381 · 10-03-2005, 17:53

Yes it's very possible we have all been subject to bullying in one form or another, at sometime in our lives. That could be why I "retired" from full time working before reaching "65", but that's another storey and not for this board.

pendy · 10-03-2005, 17:55

Ah well, there you go - threatening is subjective. I have been called an aggressive cow and a ball-breaking bitch, simply because I would not put up with being talked down to by (a) a mechanic and (b) another motorist. So there you go. I think I'm okay really - but remember guys,

A man is assertive
A woman is aggressive (etc)

garinda · 10-03-2005, 18:04

Like John pointed out.perhaps we all are guilty of bullying in some form or other in someones eyes. Like l said, l don't think l ever physically bullied anyone, but l certainly excluded people who l thought l had nothing in common with, from my little band of missfits and punks.
l'd hate to think l'd hurt anybody unknowingly. l'm sorry

Tealeaf · 10-03-2005, 18:30

I don't mind being bullied, providing she's wearing the right leather/rubber/PVC clothes and hopefully carrying a good whip. PM me if you're interested.

g78 · 10-03-2005, 18:48

My niece went through the same thing last year at her school. She was in a group of friends and when she fell out with one of them, that girl made all the others ignore my niece. This went on for several weeks till my niece finally told her mum. Now they are friends again but the scary thing is they were only 7 at the time.

garinda · 10-03-2005, 18:59

'Give me the child until he is seven, and l will give you the Man.'

-Hopefully not then!

WillowTheWhisp · 10-03-2005, 23:02

This issue is hopefully going to reach a happy conclusion without getting too out of hand in the process. My daughter's form tutor has been talking to her today about the problem and she for one doesn't think that leaving the school is the solution. If this thing doesn't sort itself out tomorrow she has said that she will talk to all concerned.

I suspect that the fact that the "mentor" is leaving her job at Easter may have something to do with her lack of involvement.

garinda · 10-03-2005, 23:10

That's good news Willow, something at least is starting to happen. l hope you'll let us know how it turns out.
The alternative is an angry mob of us lot getting the nasty little minx and forcing her to do lines on here.

lt's wrong to be a bully, lt's wrong to be a bully, lt's ..............

West Ender · 10-03-2005, 23:13

Thank goodness for that. Psychological bullying is the worst form and I'm glad it is being addressed. It's all very fine to say, "Hit back". It doesn't work when the problem is emotional.