What Are We Bringing Up ? - Page 2

mickmc · 24-02-2007, 21:25

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Originally Posted by accymel

I've warned my daughter enough times - dont come home from school pregnant i WILL not be amused at all as its not acceptable.

Did us old fuddy duddy's do something right then our Mel ??? seems like I heard that one before?? and I certainly remember your grandad stressing to me (ouch !!!) that it wasn't acceptable

But I accept your argument - its parents that set acceptable standards for their children, by whatever means they feel neccessary - and yes if thats a clout round the lugholes then I say to the P.C. brigade - Baa Humbug----- if the PC brigade want to tell me how to bring up my kids then they can take over - change their nappies, be there 24/7 and pick up the bills ------ no!!!! you don't want to do that !!! ------ then butt out !!!!

accymel · 24-02-2007, 21:37

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Originally Posted by mickmc

Did us old fuddy duddy's do something right then our Mel ??? seems like I heard that one before??

Dont u just love smug parents

shillelagh · 24-02-2007, 21:41

When I was 15 nearly 16 and had just left school someone i know found out she was pregnant. She told me by saying hey guess what im pregnant and im getting married and im getting a house. Now that was back in 1983. I turned round and said she was stupid. Why have a kid you wont be able to go out and have fun. By the way when she left her hubby because he was cheating on her the council/government gave her another house and furnished it for her.

Why have a kid if you cant look after and provide for the child though. These kids of 14 who are having babies how are they going to provide for them. They are under the age of 16 and so cant work full time - mainly because they are going to school to supposedly get the qualifications to go out to work. So who is going to be picking up the tab for childcare while they are in school and for their food and for their clothes and pram and cot etc? People who are at work and paying their taxes thats who.

mickmc · 24-02-2007, 21:46

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Originally Posted by accymel

Dont u just love smug parents

Hopefully that'll be you to flower

SPUGGIE J · 24-02-2007, 22:01

Accymel n Mickmc I now know were to come when Lauren is a couple of years older.

accymel · 24-02-2007, 22:22

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Originally Posted by SPUGGIE J

Accymel n Mickmc I now know were to come when Lauren is a couple of years older.

LOL my dad [mickmc] taught me well just hope my lot take notice & do better than me like not have kids till their mid 20's at least hehehehehehe

Margaret Pilkington · 24-02-2007, 22:23

I remember my dad telling me not to bring 'disgrace' on the family.......I wasn't at all sure what he meant....but then he said that if i ever came home pregnant and not married he would turn me onto the street naked.......and I just knew that this was no idle threat. It was the best contraception ever!

accymel · 24-02-2007, 22:27

PMSL Margaret, i think thats the distinct difference from them days to now as parents were allowed to discipline their kids then - even make beleiveable idle threats cos we knew not to question it, todays kids question everything & they do the threats [idle maybe] & they know that theres a line parents can go to - so backfires now with disciplinaries taken out of hand.

shillelagh · 24-02-2007, 22:47

I was more scared of what my mum would do than my dad. My dad i could wrap round my little finger - i was daddy's girl. Mum - she'd have killed me!!!

SPUGGIE J · 24-02-2007, 23:36

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Originally Posted by shillelagh

I was more scared of what my mum would do than my dad. My dad i could wrap round my little finger - i was daddy's girl. Mum - she'd have killed me!!!

That sums my hooli.

Got her owd man well rapped round her little finger.

Margaret Pilkington · 25-02-2007, 11:44

both Ma and Pa were fearsome......after saying that they were fine if you did as you were told and heeded their warnings....and I can't say that I was scared of them......but we were left in no uncertain terms that whatever we did had consequences.......and I think that is where the answer lies. Kids need to be allowed to make their own mistakes in some ways, but they must always be aware that whatever their actions, there will be consequences. Which may not always be what they wanted, or envisaged.