What Are We Bringing Up ?

lancsdave · 24-02-2007, 12:26

A pregnant 14-year-old has told how having a baby is now regarded as "fashionable" among schoolgirls. Kizzy Neal has been asked to give advice to four of her classmates who have also fallen pregnant since Christmas.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/liv...n_page_id=1770

tadah · 24-02-2007, 12:28

pathetic! And its partly th parents fault. If i ever have a daughtwer and she comes home preggers she will be in a for a suprise! Im not having my child preggers and ruining her life early on when she should be young and free.

harwood red · 24-02-2007, 12:42

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Originally Posted by tadah

pathetic! And its partly th parents fault. If i ever have a daughtwer and she comes home preggers she will be in a for a suprise! Im not having my child preggers and ruining her life early on when she should be young and free.

I agree no child should get pregnant at such an early age, but what plan would you have for your daughter then tadah??

accymel · 24-02-2007, 12:45

Absolutely disgraceful where have morals gone to these days, its not just the parents its society's acceptance of it. We said on another thread that the lack of sex education in schools & life skills is horrendous & these silly teenagers gain their knowledge thro other teens & have NO clue how demanding a baby is especially as a 20yr old nevermind in their early teens.

Watching Jezza in the morning comes in handy lol as the way a lot of these girls think is that a baby is something thats going to love them no matter what & everything will be cool........mmmmm maybe a look at themselves & would they cope with child just like them cos thats what they'll get & more. There is an advert that tries to make condoms & taking precautions cooler than not doing in attitude - which is obviously failing. Im my day girls that got caught preggers while at school were deemed slappers & stupid not cool!!

accymel · 24-02-2007, 12:49

I've warned my daughter enough times - dont come home from school pregnant i WILL not be amused at all as its not acceptable.

Margaret Pilkington · 24-02-2007, 13:52

some young girls see having babies as a career choice.
Have a baby....the council will find you somewhere to live and the welfare will give you money to live off.

SamF · 24-02-2007, 13:55

It isn't fashionable

Ask the average 14 year old if they think having a child would be cool and they'd laugh in your face. It's a tabloid selling papers and some girl who is stupid enough to get knocked up so early alowing them to do it in her name.

West Ender · 24-02-2007, 13:57

Teenage pregnancy wasn't unheard of when I was a teenager but it was much rarer than today. Girls knew that if they became pregnant they would be censured by all aspects of Society, including their parents and even their peers. In those days, before the advent of the contraceptive pill, unmarried girls knew there was, really, only one reliable form of contraception and that was - don't do it. If a girl did get pregnant she would either have to marry the father as soon as possible or, in a lot of very sad cases, give up the baby for adoption. I think the latter was wrong and cruel but that was the way it was.

There is so much more exposure of explicit sexuality now, in the Media and in Life in general, and young girls are pressured into giving an impression of maturity that they don't really have. In some ways it's very subtle, such as the type of clothes available for children. I often see pre-teens who are, frankly, dressed like Tarts. They are encouraged to be "grown up" but they are not ready for it, as the idea of "fashionable" under-age pregnancy just goes to show. It's all part of the collapse of conventional moral values, even the collapse of the conventional family unit that is prevalent today and it goes hand in hand with the eroding of discipline in general.

lancsdave · 24-02-2007, 14:39

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Originally Posted by SamF

It isn't fashionable

Ask the average 14 year old if they think having a child would be cool and they'd laugh in your face. It's a tabloid selling papers and some girl who is stupid enough to get knocked up so early alowing them to do it in her name.

This isn't about one girl Sam. There were four others in her class as well. The ONS recently published figures that there were 7,917 preganancies for under 16's in 2005 and we have the highest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe. I don't think a tabloid paper is responsible for that !!

lancsdave · 24-02-2007, 14:43

Whats equally as alarming is that the father ( I use the term biologically ) is only 13

SPUGGIE J · 24-02-2007, 18:09

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Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington

some young girls see having babies as a career choice.
Have a baby....the council will find you somewhere to live and the welfare will give you money to live off.

There are plenty that do that and some who do have a job even if its part time and loving homes if 17/18. Why a kid would want a kid beats me but is best summed up by the answer I got of my nieces pal. She was going on about being 16 in March and I asked her what was so important to which she answered "it will be legal" so that somes up the attitude of these kids. My young cousin regrets it as it stopped her doing what she wanted to do at colledge and uni. Asked why she got pregnant she said it was an accident and besides her pals said they were all sleeping with their boyfriends. Whether this was true or not it shows the peer pressure part without the realisation of what the consiquences of it going wrong due to contraception failure/non use (lads are the worst for this) leads to.

The story shows that we are still failing children in an area that will affect them for life. Maybe its time to stop glamourising sex and change the mind set of these kids before more have their lives destroyed. I have a daughter and worry about what she will trying in a few years time and how I would react.

SamF · 24-02-2007, 18:15

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Originally Posted by lancsdave

This isn't about one girl Sam. There were four others in her class as well. The ONS recently published figures that there were 7,917 preganancies for under 16's in 2005 and we have the highest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe. I don't think a tabloid paper is responsible for that !!

I was not saying that it isn't common, but I am saying getting pregnant is not thought as fashionable.

WillowTheWhisp · 24-02-2007, 18:21

Marrying the father isn't always the best option either. It may be the first boyfriend and they don't even have a real relationship. The marriage could be doomed from the start.

SPUGGIE J · 24-02-2007, 18:26

Without support from parents social services then the babies of these girls who are only kids themselves are in for a hard life or adoption. To Willows point about marrage she is spot on and that would be bad as well.

A harsh but useful answer at the extreme end would be chastity belts for both boys and girls until they are 21.

Mancie · 24-02-2007, 19:40

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A harsh but useful answer at the extreme end would be chastity belts for both boys and girls until they are 21.

And you keep the keys ?