would you start again at 66? - Page 3

MargaretR · 16-05-2009, 18:18

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Originally Posted by Neil

It must have been hard for you living with that kind of man. Why did you not get rid of him if he was so useless?

Well I did

, but very few women are in a position to do that financially.
There is an added factor - love
It is not until you stop loving your man that you see him in his true light.
The death of love for him can occur gradually as a man's selfishness erodes a woman's self respect.
So beware you husbands - every wife has her limits of tolerance

Margaret Pilkington · 16-05-2009, 18:20

Neil, I didn't say that I lived with this kind of man...but I know women who do.

Garinda asked a question and I gave my opinion on it....it is true that the physiological effects can never ever be experienced by a man...or do you dispute that?
And that is why child bearing is different for a man than a woman.......a man need have very little practical input........unless of course he wants to........watch Jeremy Kyle a few times and you will see what I mean.....and just because you may handle child rearing differently doesn't mean that that is the model for all fathers.

In respect of this woman, she is purely an incubator....this child is not biologically hers........and OK, there are mothers who foster children, and the children get a better mother than the biological kind......but I believe that it is wrong for women to have babies at such an advanced age.....just because we have the science to achieve it doesn't make it right.

emzy · 16-05-2009, 18:40

In answer to the original question, no i wouldnt start again at 66, wouldnt even start again now lol

I agree with so many reaponses, it is wrong to me and just because we have the technology to do it it shouldnt be done, once it is no longer "natural" for a woman to conceive then it shouldnt happen

shillelagh · 16-05-2009, 18:48

I would say that after the age of 50 IVF shouldnt be available to women in this country .. and if a woman after the age 50 wants to do that then she will have to go abroad and pay for it, if she comes back to this country then she pays for all prenatal care and for the birth and for all antenatal care as well.

Whos going to bring that baby up .. the mother or the nanny .. the nanny is going to be there 24hrs day ... why .. is the mother not going to take any responsibility for the baby, change nappies, feed him/her, comfort her/him etc .. or is the baby going to be wheeled out for the cameras .. this is my mummy and shes 76 years old .. on jeremy kyle in 10 years time....and what is she going to be like in 10 years time .. is her health going to be 100% -is dementia going to kick in, a stroke, a heart attack, etc

I dont agree with it as you can probably tell. My mum when i was born was nearly 42 ... one teacher when i was at the high school is this your grandma? No its my mum and the teacher oh right and did a runner ...

AccyLass · 16-05-2009, 18:59

I think the baby should be taken off her at birth, and be given to responsible people

Ones that actually have a chance of being there after it's 10th birthday

Lilly · 16-05-2009, 21:24

Having had my first child at 22 it is possible that I could be a great grandma by the time I am 66.

I don't fancy having another child who is the same age as my great grandchild........how weird would that be?

MargaretR · 16-05-2009, 22:35

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Originally Posted by Lilly

Having had my first child at 22 it is possible that I could be a great grandma by the time I am 66.

I don't fancy having another child who is the same age as my great grandchild........how weird would that be?

I am 66 and have a 24yr old granddaughter.
She is a binge drinking WAG - thank goodness she hasn't had a family yet.
She thinks more about designer handbags than babies.
Perhaps will be OK in a year or two when she has matured

lindsay ormerod · 16-05-2009, 22:41

I am in my 40's now and have definately not ruled out the chance of having another child. The hospital classed me as an "at risk" mum first time around 13 years ago because I had left it so late and even asked me if I may have "forgotten" about previous pregnancies...peoples opinions would not stop me having another child as long as I am fit and healthy enough to carry and deliver the child..

flashy · 17-05-2009, 10:04

hmmm someone wants to make her mind up

see post 18

http://www.accringtonweb.com/forum/f...e-46715-2.html

Margaret Pilkington · 17-05-2009, 10:14

Flashy...it is a womans prerogative to change her mind

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Gayle · 17-05-2009, 11:19

In defence of some men - looking after children is a shared job and many men do share it equally. I think things have changed a lot since the days of women doing all the childcare.

I realise they don't actually carry the kids, although believe me I made sure Chris suffered just as much as I did when I was carrying each one of them. He felt the pain every day during my pregnancies.

Anyway, back on to the mad woman in question here - I wouldn't even want to have another one at 44, how crazy is she to want one at 66?

flashy · 17-05-2009, 13:43

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Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington

Flashy...it is a womans prerogative to change her mind

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maybe Marg but certain people are all to quick to jump down others throats for doing things like that

lindsay ormerod · 17-05-2009, 20:14

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Originally Posted by flashy

hmmm someone wants to make her mind up

see post 18

http://www.accringtonweb.com/forum/f...e-46715-2.html

Read it again darling, I said "not sure" .

( think it's time you found a new pastime, my old postings can't be that enthralling.)

flashy · 17-05-2009, 20:19

you truly are pathetic and petty Lindsay, your quick to jump down other peoples throats for something as silly as a spelling mistake, but can't take criticism when it comes to your own bull

maybe its you who needs to get a new passtime hunni

panther · 18-05-2009, 18:59

Who's gonna support this child?
what if she drops dead in 5/10 years time?

Im 36 and NO WAY id have another child at my age

As someone stated earlier in the thread a woman goes through the menopause for a reason!!

I think she had a sperm donor too?

The answer is simple she had the IVF in the Ukrain, so, she should go back their to have the child and let their country help and support her.

When that childs 4 she will be 70 FFS its just not right!