Advice please

[Rob249]

This might sound a little crazy and believe me it is.I started talking to a girl on the internet over a year ago, when we first started talking all i wanted was to be friends but after a couple of weeks she wanted more.She told me she had a son who was 2 and that she had come out of a long term relationship with her ex.

After about a month of talking we arranged to meet up and she was going to come and see me and stop at my house for a weekend, but then she said her son was ill and had to go into hospital, i felt upset and said dont worry its ok theres no rush yr sons more important and we can meet up soon.

Anyway this happened five times when she was going to come up that the baby was poorly and she couldnt make it.She would send me texts like I love you so much and my little boy is missing his step daddy, and how much she and her son missed me.

To try and cut a long story short, she eventually told me that she doesnt have a son and that it is her nephew, thing is Ive kept the texts on my phone even tho we still havent met but what hurts me is that she has been saying all this to me when its her brothers child and i have found out her address through a lot of hard work searching.

I just really dont know what to do.If you had a brother or sister that did that to you what would you do and what do you think i should do.Ive found out for definite that it is her brothers child.Its just doing my head in.

[MargaretR]

You have been duped - give her the elbow.
Indulging in romantic fantasy isn't healthy.

Just realise that she may be Britain's answer to Quasimodo for all you know




(sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind)

[garinda]

Originally Posted by Rob249

This might sound a little crazy and believe me it is.I started talking to a girl on the internet over a year ago, when we first started talking all i wanted was to be friends but after a couple of weeks she wanted more.She told me she had a son who was 2 and that she had come out of a long term relationship with her ex.

After about a month of talking we arranged to meet up and she was going to come and see me and stop at my house for a weekend, but then she said her son was ill and had to go into hospital, i felt upset and said dont worry its ok theres no rush yr sons more important and we can meet up soon.

Anyway this happened five times when she was going to come up that the baby was poorly and she couldnt make it.She would send me texts like I love you so much and my little boy is missing his step daddy, and how much she and her son missed me.

To try and cut a long story short, she eventually told me that she doesnt have a son and that it is her nephew, thing is Ive kept the texts on my phone even tho we still havent met but what hurts me is that she has been saying all this to me when its her brothers child and i have found out her address through a lot of hard work searching.

I just really dont know what to do.If you had a brother or sister that did that to you what would you do and what do you think i should do.Ive found out for definite that it is her brothers child.Its just doing my head in.

Easy.

She's a liar, and a fantasist.

You'll never be able to trust a word she says.

Run in the opposite direction, as fast as you can, and cut all ties with her.

There are plenty of lovely lasses.

You'll find one when you least expect it.

[Retlaw]

Originally Posted by Rob249

This might sound a little crazy and believe me it is.I started talking to a girl on the internet over a year ago, when we first started talking all i wanted was to be friends but after a couple of weeks she wanted more.She told me she had a son who was 2 and that she had come out of a long term relationship with her ex.

After about a month of talking we arranged to meet up and she was going to come and see me and stop at my house for a weekend, but then she said her son was ill and had to go into hospital, i felt upset and said dont worry its ok theres no rush yr sons more important and we can meet up soon.

Anyway this happened five times when she was going to come up that the baby was poorly and she couldnt make it.She would send me texts like I love you so much and my little boy is missing his step daddy, and how much she and her son missed me.

To try and cut a long story short, she eventually told me that she doesnt have a son and that it is her nephew, thing is Ive kept the texts on my phone even tho we still havent met but what hurts me is that she has been saying all this to me when its her brothers child and i have found out her address through a lot of hard work searching.

I just really dont know what to do.If you had a brother or sister that did that to you what would you do and what do you think i should do.Ive found out for definite that it is her brothers child.Its just doing my head in.

If all that is true then ditch her and quick, or the rest of your life will be ruined, if she can lie like that for no apparent reason, what sort of person is she.

Retlaw.

[MargaretR]

If 'she' asks for money for any reason - she may even be a Nigerian 'he'

[Rob249]

I know but what i want to do is go down and show her mum and her brother the texts that she has been sending, I dont know what reaction that will get, i find it hard to trust people now tho.

[Taggy]

Originally Posted by garinda

Easy.

She's a liar, and a fantasist.

You'll never be able to trust a word she says.

Run in the opposite direction, as fast as you can, and cut all ties with her.

There are plenty of lovely lasses.

You'll find one when you least expect it.

Yep i think that sums up what most will think...and i think you will know this yourself too, you would not be able to trust her...and without trust...you have nothing!


Best Regards - Taggy

[Taggy]

Originally Posted by Rob249

I know but what i want to do is go down and show her mum and her brother the texts that she has been sending, I dont know what reaction that will get, i find it hard to trust people now tho.

Nah...dont get involved mate...cut the communications now, and move on!


Best Regards - Taggy

[MargaretR]

Originally Posted by Rob249

I know but what i want to do is go down and show her mum and her brother the texts that she has been sending, I dont know what reaction that will get, i find it hard to trust people now tho.

You might be walking into a dangerous situation - her 'family' may be a bad lot and resent your intrusion.

[garinda]

Originally Posted by Rob249

I know but what i want to do is go down and show her mum and her brother the texts that she has been sending, I dont know what reaction that will get, i find it hard to trust people now tho.

Leave it.

Cut all ties.

Change your number.

Why she did what she did, you don't need to know.

I'd just be happy that such an odd person had never actually been to my home.

[Margaret Pilkington]

Don't do it, it won't achieve anything.
Kick her to the kerb and get on with your life.
Don't rely on the internet to find friends of either sex...go out and meet people in real life.....it is easier to judge people you can see and talk to......and meet their friends.

[Rob249]

I know but she has hurt me with all she has said i just want to show her brother the texts she has sent me about his son he will go mad, i think anyone would.

[MargaretR]

I googled 'nigerian dating scam' and got 45,000 results
Nigerian dating scam database with photos of scammers

..you could be being groomed

[flashy]

her brother might be the type of person to knock you out, don't bother, you could end up in serious danger, didn't you think something was very odd when she said the child was 'missing' its step daddy, when you'd never even met? are you really so nieve?

[Rob249]

itl put my mind at rest if i see her and on a scale of 1 to 10 what damage would showing her brother and mum the texts, il feel happier doing it