I suppose it is what we would all like when our time comes..... a sudden end. None of this lingering about with long faced family and friends gathered around your bedside.
And I reckon it is a good way to go.....out with a bang, not a whimper.
But, for those left behind a sudden death is tragic. One minute the person they loved is here and seemingly in robust health, the next minute they are gone.
No time for farewells, or last words.
Dealing with a suden death can be very traumatic too, with the inevitable police presence. Though my experience of this has been that the officers concerned were very sensitive to the needs of the bereaved.
A sudden death also usually means that there has to be a post mortem to establish the cause of death.
We may not like to think of our loved one being subjected to such an indignity, but often strangely, it can be a comfort to know what caused the demise...especially if it proves that the loved one died without pain, or that there was nothing that could have prevented such a death.
Death isn't something that we freely talk about, in fact I think it is probably one of the last taboos.
How do you approach someone who is grieving? I am not sure I know what the right answer to this is, because everyone is unique and different......all I would say is that practical help is invaluable to the bereaved...don't wait for them to ask for something...do something you know they will need doing....a meal, laundry, shopping.
Just please do not ignore them because you aren't sure you have the right words...there are no RIGHT words.
I am prompted to write this because of the recent sad loss of V.......my thoughts go out to her husband and her children, as i know they are having a hard time coming to terms with their loss.
And I reckon it is a good way to go.....out with a bang, not a whimper.
But, for those left behind a sudden death is tragic. One minute the person they loved is here and seemingly in robust health, the next minute they are gone.
No time for farewells, or last words.
Dealing with a suden death can be very traumatic too, with the inevitable police presence. Though my experience of this has been that the officers concerned were very sensitive to the needs of the bereaved.
A sudden death also usually means that there has to be a post mortem to establish the cause of death.
We may not like to think of our loved one being subjected to such an indignity, but often strangely, it can be a comfort to know what caused the demise...especially if it proves that the loved one died without pain, or that there was nothing that could have prevented such a death.
Death isn't something that we freely talk about, in fact I think it is probably one of the last taboos.
How do you approach someone who is grieving? I am not sure I know what the right answer to this is, because everyone is unique and different......all I would say is that practical help is invaluable to the bereaved...don't wait for them to ask for something...do something you know they will need doing....a meal, laundry, shopping.
Just please do not ignore them because you aren't sure you have the right words...there are no RIGHT words.
I am prompted to write this because of the recent sad loss of V.......my thoughts go out to her husband and her children, as i know they are having a hard time coming to terms with their loss.
